To say today’s been a bit of a rough day is a huge understatement. I have an amazingly wonderful, carefully cultivated circle on social media, and today they’re all posting in honor of TDOV. All of the “we see you” posts have had a very unintended effect, and not one I like.

I wanted to scream. Cry. Run away from the online world for the entire day. Why? Because how can yousee me if I can’t see myself?

It’s been three years since I started my “safe haven” profile online. Doesn’t seem possibl...