The character Hilary from my novel, recognises her unhappiness, but remains trapped in fear. .
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Unconsciously, we remain in patterns that don’t serve us because it’s all we know. We hesitate to form new ways of living because we don’t know what the end will be. Truthfully, no one knows what the end of the week will look like and no one knows what the end of the year will look like, and that’s okay. Acceptance is key. .
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However, why do we allow fear to stop us from living? .
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Why don’t we begin that new hobby? Why don’t we say no to things we have said yes to? Why don’t we try to form that new relationship? Why don’t we let go of relationships that hinder our growth? Why don’t we break unhealthy habits? .
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What are we scared of? Answer: the unknown. .
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This loop of fear stagnates us. .
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Exactly as Hilary does in the book, she is surviving not living. When living beings act from fear, we are in survival mode and this hinders us from living. .
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How do we break these patterns? .
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One way could be to ask yourself: what parts of the unknown am I afraid of? .
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I’ve learnt that fear is deeply layered and those layers are usually covering up painful experiences. When we are too scared to form a new relationship, it’s because we are anxious of being hurt again. We become dependent on unhealthy familiar relationships because seeing our patterns and changing them may be scary. .
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Small steps can take us to the other side of the unknown and that is a lot more wondrous than staying stuck in a place we’re not happy in. .
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Let’s make the choice to actually live.