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Interview with Pamela Acosta, Sept 24, 2021, on how to heal the inner child to heal the world!
Listen to the whole talk and read the highlights here!
Pamela
is a fellow blogger who brings healing and life as a plant-based facilitator and enthusiast. She is an accomplished designer of her own life and teaches others to do it in a wholistic, safe, and effective process. She’s done the hard work herself and shares her journey with others so all can achieve overall health and wellbeing too.
Nothing brings me more joy than connecting with others who plow the fields of humanity with other aware and conscious Beings, and Pam is one for sure! We’ve gotten to know each other over the past year and I’m SO GRATEFUL and honored to be in this space with her divine magical Being! She was an early reader of my newest book
“Heal the inner child to Heal the world!”
and been hugely instrumental in supporting its creation! In this season 3 premiere episode, she interviews ME! It was awesome to be the one answering the questions instead of asking them :) We hope you enjoy and are enriched by the talk and are inspired to start or keep going through the amazing process of healing.
Here is a written list of the questions Pam asked and kolee answered. In the talk we meander through all these issues plus some and weave a beautiful narrative of mindfulness, healing, transformation, and awareness.
Enjoy and share with others who you think could benefit from the convo :)
1. What was the process for me of taking the inner knowledge I realized to the other world?
“In seeing how fast I changed my life I had known and built my entire identity around after 14 years of marriage, absolute loyalty to him and my children, growing in my wholistic health journey (so cleaning up the literal shit inside me first), I became aware I had been conditioned to think change takes a long time. It IS a process, but with the correct mindset (which the book aims to expand) EVERYTHING can change in an instant.”
When I changed everything around me basically instantly after my divorce 7 years ago, I saw for the first time in my life we do are not EVER stuck in our current realities and we can take action to change everything!
Once we change it though, we still need to change our mindsets or we will continue creating dead-end situations with the new people/places in our lives! The book “Heal the inner child to Heal the world!” talks all about this mindset shift and seeks to support this new consciousness we need to get out of old crappy situations and stay in lovely and healing new ones :)
2. What do I believe to be the deepest wound that we need to heal as a collective?
“Basically, nonlove or fear can manifest as shame, guilt, regret, rejection, anger, or bitterness. It’s the same root cause, it just grows into a different beast as we fertilize it with different agents. The wounds need to be cleaned, dressed, nurtured, and seen before they can be healed and healthy.”
3. What was the hardest trauma or attachment to release? Why? How did I begin the journey?
“The hardest trauma or story as I like to call it to release for me was that I was “unloveable.” It was a deep-seated attachment that began in the womb for me as my mother’s placenta (lifeline) didn’t have enough for me to live on, so I came out early. Seriously, from day 0 I was making life-saving decisions (welcome to the world dear capricorn!), and through my specific genetic and ancestral conditioning, I came to the conclusion I wasn’t loved, I wasn’t worthy of love, if I was loveable surely my own creator would nourish me, etc…. Of course, the reason it was so difficult to deal with is the fact that it was almost totally subconscious and a buried belief.
Although it colored EVERYTHING in my life, I was unaware that it was running the (shit) show. It all changed when I used my free will to enter the subconscious and reprogram my body to deal with the manifestation of sexual abuse at a very young age which 1. Was attracted and allowed into my reality because of the inherent belief I was in fact not loveable and 2. I was subconsciously recreating these abandonment and rejection issues in order to ultimately wake myself up to the pain of these feelings in order to heal them and move on! It literally changed my life because I got to that core trauma through several EMDR sessions which became the catalyst to leaving my loveless marriage, “If I am indeed loveable, I can’t stay in a relationship where I’m treated without love.” It still took 3 years of reprocessing on my own in nature to really start to see the patterns of this original trauma played out.”
4. What advice would I give to another on the same journey of self-reflection and healing? Where to start? How does the middle part of the journey feel? What happens after we realize magic manifestation skills?
“ Main advice- JUST DO THE WORK!
Honestly assess what is going on NOW, go way back to the womb experience, and begin to see the core wounding intertwined in ALL our stories. It’s magical to become aware of the pain we attempt to numb through various escapes, and when we become aware, we have the power to change and heal.
Once we get started, it feels pretty shitty actually, most people run back to old comforts and remain stuck so when things are beginning, know there will be an incredible amount of pain, and breathe through it basically. Get good solid support systems in place or be as stable as possible, hire help who are trained to deal with intense emotions, engage in some kind of exercise, drink more water, clean house, etc to get the outside a little more aligned with the cleaning we’re doing on the inside.
Then we’ll be making progress and the pain will probably begin to turn more to hope somewhat, we may feel like we’ve arrived and get lazy again BUT we really need to be aware of this middle ground and DON’T STOP, KEEEP GOING! If we keep going, we will gain more momentum to go for the rest of our time on earth and beyond. This is where the freedom comes in because we know deep inside that we got this and it makes life enjoyable to observe, experiment, and grab new opportunities!”
5. Re: PTSD and the trauma I’ve been through-
What would be the best encouragement or advice I would give a woman who feels stuck in any situation or feels lost?
To not internalize it or take it personally or feel as if “you are the only one” feeling this way. It’s the lone wolf syndrome and those shadows really prey on the fear or sadness or anger or shame. So talk about how you feel. Tell your stories, let others know you are hurting or scared.
Acknowledge the pain and as crazy as it seems, that in and of itself begins the healing process.
6. More about being mindful-
How do we realize where we find ourselves in the current moment IS the result from all our actions up until now? What do we do when recognize that the results we become aware of involve our attention to change them instead of blaming circumstances on someone else?
“One of the most resisted steps to full liberation is denial. Denying we have any role in our current state keeps us captive in it. When we begin to take 100% response-ability, we are then 100% in power!
Developing these skills and mindset lead to our full liberatiaon and empower us to make lasting and whole changes- for ourselves and the world.”
7. Re: freedom and sticking with suffering because we don’t think we played a role in the suffering origin. Why do think this happens?
“Holding the ability to respond correctly and trusting in this inner process is key here.
100% Response-ability ultimately.
When we deny the fact that we actually ARE in charge of life 1, we can endure shitty circumstances with joy and love anyway, and 2. We begin to be in charge of what we are a part of. Old ego blocks us from this process by blaming another whereas new reborn ego observes and is secure enough to do something different to actually get a different result- it’s no longer protecting our fragile sick Being from dealing with the hard truth we all must face in order to actually change stuff.”
8. What was my process in becoming whole? How did I piece it all together? How did it change my life?
“It’s been very slow honestly. I had my original “awakening” to real unconditioned love in my early 20’s yet I still was operating under old stories and cellular trauma so that my mindset was still basically the same, sooo the present situations were still validating my broken narratives. It wasn’t until I literally re-programmed the neural pathways in my brain and body that I was awake again to the why I was needing to re-do these horrible stories over and over again. Still, yet there is another stretch where I had to integrate all this information in practical everyday thinking and actions. The 4th part was called embodiment and it allowed for cellular upgrades because finally I was working with healthy cells and Being. This is where I am still, it’s a forever process so don’t ever think we “arrive.”
Now I’m calling in beneficial relationships and realizing the plans I set out to accomplish, I still have to learn how to practically live in this new cellf (self). It’s fun now, but still needs constant attention and awareness to develop further. I can’t even imagine what my life will look like in 5 years let alone 10! I have excitement now though as I do the everyday living that is what makes up our future.”
Enjoy all which was shared here and share with others who you think could benefit from the convo :)
Make sure to check out Pam's 7-Day Detox Challenge
HERE
if you are looking to upgrade your physical wellbeing too!
Grab your copy of Heal the inner child to Heal the world!
HERE
(and take advantage of the FREE promo for a limited time!)
Join us both in the telegram group for instant loving friends and high level support!
https://t.me/newearthpublishinghaus
Practicalsaint Talk soon! Kolee n krew xxxoo
www.essentialmind.me
Listen to the whole talk and read the highlights here!
Pamela
is a fellow blogger who brings healing and life as a plant-based facilitator and enthusiast. She is an accomplished designer of her own life and teaches others to do it in a wholistic, safe, and effective process. She’s done the hard work herself and shares her journey with others so all can achieve overall health and wellbeing too.
Nothing brings me more joy than connecting with others who plow the fields of humanity with other aware and conscious Beings, and Pam is one for sure! We’ve gotten to know each other over the past year and I’m SO GRATEFUL and honored to be in this space with her divine magical Being! She was an early reader of my newest book
“Heal the inner child to Heal the world!”
and been hugely instrumental in supporting its creation! In this season 3 premiere episode, she interviews ME! It was awesome to be the one answering the questions instead of asking them :) We hope you enjoy and are enriched by the talk and are inspired to start or keep going through the amazing process of healing.
Here is a written list of the questions Pam asked and kolee answered. In the talk we meander through all these issues plus some and weave a beautiful narrative of mindfulness, healing, transformation, and awareness.
Enjoy and share with others who you think could benefit from the convo :)
1. What was the process for me of taking the inner knowledge I realized to the other world?
“In seeing how fast I changed my life I had known and built my entire identity around after 14 years of marriage, absolute loyalty to him and my children, growing in my wholistic health journey (so cleaning up the literal shit inside me first), I became aware I had been conditioned to think change takes a long time. It IS a process, but with the correct mindset (which the book aims to expand) EVERYTHING can change in an instant.”
When I changed everything around me basically instantly after my divorce 7 years ago, I saw for the first time in my life we do are not EVER stuck in our current realities and we can take action to change everything!
Once we change it though, we still need to change our mindsets or we will continue creating dead-end situations with the new people/places in our lives! The book “Heal the inner child to Heal the world!” talks all about this mindset shift and seeks to support this new consciousness we need to get out of old crappy situations and stay in lovely and healing new ones :)
2. What do I believe to be the deepest wound that we need to heal as a collective?
“Basically, nonlove or fear can manifest as shame, guilt, regret, rejection, anger, or bitterness. It’s the same root cause, it just grows into a different beast as we fertilize it with different agents. The wounds need to be cleaned, dressed, nurtured, and seen before they can be healed and healthy.”
3. What was the hardest trauma or attachment to release? Why? How did I begin the journey?
“The hardest trauma or story as I like to call it to release for me was that I was “unloveable.” It was a deep-seated attachment that began in the womb for me as my mother’s placenta (lifeline) didn’t have enough for me to live on, so I came out early. Seriously, from day 0 I was making life-saving decisions (welcome to the world dear capricorn!), and through my specific genetic and ancestral conditioning, I came to the conclusion I wasn’t loved, I wasn’t worthy of love, if I was loveable surely my own creator would nourish me, etc…. Of course, the reason it was so difficult to deal with is the fact that it was almost totally subconscious and a buried belief.
Although it colored EVERYTHING in my life, I was unaware that it was running the (shit) show. It all changed when I used my free will to enter the subconscious and reprogram my body to deal with the manifestation of sexual abuse at a very young age which 1. Was attracted and allowed into my reality because of the inherent belief I was in fact not loveable and 2. I was subconsciously recreating these abandonment and rejection issues in order to ultimately wake myself up to the pain of these feelings in order to heal them and move on! It literally changed my life because I got to that core trauma through several EMDR sessions which became the catalyst to leaving my loveless marriage, “If I am indeed loveable, I can’t stay in a relationship where I’m treated without love.” It still took 3 years of reprocessing on my own in nature to really start to see the patterns of this original trauma played out.”
4. What advice would I give to another on the same journey of self-reflection and healing? Where to start? How does the middle part of the journey feel? What happens after we realize magic manifestation skills?
“ Main advice- JUST DO THE WORK!
Honestly assess what is going on NOW, go way back to the womb experience, and begin to see the core wounding intertwined in ALL our stories. It’s magical to become aware of the pain we attempt to numb through various escapes, and when we become aware, we have the power to change and heal.
Once we get started, it feels pretty shitty actually, most people run back to old comforts and remain stuck so when things are beginning, know there will be an incredible amount of pain, and breathe through it basically. Get good solid support systems in place or be as stable as possible, hire help who are trained to deal with intense emotions, engage in some kind of exercise, drink more water, clean house, etc to get the outside a little more aligned with the cleaning we’re doing on the inside.
Then we’ll be making progress and the pain will probably begin to turn more to hope somewhat, we may feel like we’ve arrived and get lazy again BUT we really need to be aware of this middle ground and DON’T STOP, KEEEP GOING! If we keep going, we will gain more momentum to go for the rest of our time on earth and beyond. This is where the freedom comes in because we know deep inside that we got this and it makes life enjoyable to observe, experiment, and grab new opportunities!”
5. Re: PTSD and the trauma I’ve been through-
What would be the best encouragement or advice I would give a woman who feels stuck in any situation or feels lost?
To not internalize it or take it personally or feel as if “you are the only one” feeling this way. It’s the lone wolf syndrome and those shadows really prey on the fear or sadness or anger or shame. So talk about how you feel. Tell your stories, let others know you are hurting or scared.
Acknowledge the pain and as crazy as it seems, that in and of itself begins the healing process.
6. More about being mindful-
How do we realize where we find ourselves in the current moment IS the result from all our actions up until now? What do we do when recognize that the results we become aware of involve our attention to change them instead of blaming circumstances on someone else?
“One of the most resisted steps to full liberation is denial. Denying we have any role in our current state keeps us captive in it. When we begin to take 100% response-ability, we are then 100% in power!
Developing these skills and mindset lead to our full liberatiaon and empower us to make lasting and whole changes- for ourselves and the world.”
7. Re: freedom and sticking with suffering because we don’t think we played a role in the suffering origin. Why do think this happens?
“Holding the ability to respond correctly and trusting in this inner process is key here.
100% Response-ability ultimately.
When we deny the fact that we actually ARE in charge of life 1, we can endure shitty circumstances with joy and love anyway, and 2. We begin to be in charge of what we are a part of. Old ego blocks us from this process by blaming another whereas new reborn ego observes and is secure enough to do something different to actually get a different result- it’s no longer protecting our fragile sick Being from dealing with the hard truth we all must face in order to actually change stuff.”
8. What was my process in becoming whole? How did I piece it all together? How did it change my life?
“It’s been very slow honestly. I had my original “awakening” to real unconditioned love in my early 20’s yet I still was operating under old stories and cellular trauma so that my mindset was still basically the same, sooo the present situations were still validating my broken narratives. It wasn’t until I literally re-programmed the neural pathways in my brain and body that I was awake again to the why I was needing to re-do these horrible stories over and over again. Still, yet there is another stretch where I had to integrate all this information in practical everyday thinking and actions. The 4th part was called embodiment and it allowed for cellular upgrades because finally I was working with healthy cells and Being. This is where I am still, it’s a forever process so don’t ever think we “arrive.”
Now I’m calling in beneficial relationships and realizing the plans I set out to accomplish, I still have to learn how to practically live in this new cellf (self). It’s fun now, but still needs constant attention and awareness to develop further. I can’t even imagine what my life will look like in 5 years let alone 10! I have excitement now though as I do the everyday living that is what makes up our future.”
Enjoy all which was shared here and share with others who you think could benefit from the convo :)
Make sure to check out Pam's 7-Day Detox Challenge
HERE
if you are looking to upgrade your physical wellbeing too!
Grab your copy of Heal the inner child to Heal the world!
HERE
(and take advantage of the FREE promo for a limited time!)
Join us both in the telegram group for instant loving friends and high level support!
https://t.me/newearthpublishinghaus
Practicalsaint Talk soon! Kolee n krew xxxoo
www.essentialmind.me
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