One of my closest friends frequently talks about wishing she could have a “do-over” as a parent. Her grown children are highly accomplished—two are lawyers, and another is the CEO of a corporation. Despite their achievements, however, my friend is convinced that she made mistakes by monitoring and overemphasizing academic and athletic success. Raising my only child, I was similarly intent on getting parenting “right,” but as most of us know, it is exceedin...