Yesterday I was so in the zone writing my next book, The Guidebook to Being Human, that I totally lost track of time and forgot to write the newsletter. But now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

Hope everyone is enjoying mango season. They’re extra sweet this time of year so be sure to get your fill. I sure did.

This may surprise you, but peace and happiness is our natural state of being. But too often in life, we are being pushed and pulled in all sorts of directions. If we don’t wisely observe this taking place, we will quickly get tangled up in knots. 

Most of us are tangled. We need to untangle. Just like our cords that get all tangled up, with enough time and care, everything can be untangled.

When we are feeling very tight and tense, we need to loosen up. When our mind is spinning in circles, we need to take a pause. Then we can start to unwind.

Step 1) Stop Making the Problem Worse

The first step, as with any tangled cord, is to stop making the problem worse. Take a break from the activities that created the mess in the first place. Go out into nature if you can, free from all the influences that created this mess. Nature doesn’t want anything from you — you’re free to just be. If that’s unavailable, close your eyes and breathe.

Step 2) Examine the Mess

Notice the desires you’re running towards and the fears you’re running away from. 

Look at your attachments and loss. 

Face your regrets and your pain. 

See how everything in our society is practically designed to tie us in knots. We are either rewarded or punished in school, advertisements tell us what we should want, the news stokes our fears, and even the architecture around us either inspires us or depresses us. 

Step 3) Don’t React to Any of It 

One by one, unthread that cord by not reacting mentally or physically to any of the knots. Accept life exactly as it is. Accept you exactly as you are. Don’t respond to desires with craving and don’t respond to fear with anger or tension. Just be with it all.

When we can peacefully watch what used to drive us in knots, they become peaceful to us. Then they stop agitating us altogether.

This is how we reclaim our natural state. Eventually, we can witness whatever life throws our way without reacting. This is the lasting peace we’re all looking for.

When we can simply be — by letting everything else be — we rediscover our true self.

Don’t try to do it. All effort keeps us tense. Just rest into it. Don’t put expectations on top of your expectations. Play, explore, have fun. The right attitude is, whatever happens happens. Then, it surely will.

In our new film, Lost and Alone: Secrets of Finding Your True Self, I go into more depth about how we can rediscover our natural state of bliss. Looking forward to sharing and watching it with you.

Much love,

Todd

P.S. Here are a few other topics that I covered this week:

What if what you think is protecting you is actually holding you back? (Watch Here) What can we do when we’re hurting? Revenge? Ignore it? Distract ourselves? Drown our sorrows in substances? Or is there another path? (Watch Here) How can we get through hard times? (Listen Here) Path to Peace with Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Email JOIN

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