On Leaving Home

It was grim when our nest emptied so we left too. Hagar and I traveled around the United States and Europe for a year, and then renovated a beautiful leafy house which we swore would be our final home. After sixteen homes in nine countries it was time.

We moved in nine months ago. Our house has a lush tropical garden, a small pool, friendly neighbors, and is a minute from the beach and fifteen minutes from town. A desk at a bay window overlooking purple jacaranda became my writing space and Hagar turned the basement into her studio. She's an artist.

We hung our pictures, stacked our books, planted a herb garden, and yesterday, as I write, rented the house to a German couple with three children for two years.

We're going to San Miguel de Allende in Mexico to learn Spanish for a month, and then plan to wander slowly through Latin America, writing and painting.

Why? I don't have a clue. Hagar says it's because we're wandering Jews.

After all, we met on the road.

I was a 26-year-old news cameraman and Hagar was a 19-year-old Israeli army sergeant. Driving to Jerusalem I passed this smiling Yemenite thumbing a lift and hit the brakes so hard I almost banged my head on the steering wheel. That was thirty-nine years ago and we've been together ever since.

The road is in our family's blood. Guy left home age fifteen for the Royal Ballet School in London and has hardly been back since.
Jonathan left school age fifteen to go surfing around the world.
Daniel is studying in New York.

At the door, with their bags in their hands, I spread my fingers across the boys' bowed heads and blessed them with the words I learned from my father:

May God bless you and protect you.
May God's face shine upon you and be gracious to you.
May God lift God's face up to you and grant you peace.

I wished them well and they were gone.

But when I fell sick I at last woke to find all three at my bedside, hugging Hagar. We smiled and kissed. And when I recovered, they left again.

That's the way of our little world. Everyone is seeking their story.
I write mine, Hagar paints hers, and the boys are living theirs. For home, it is true, is where the heart is.

—Martin Fletcher
Jacob's Oath
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message 1: by Therese (last edited Jul 10, 2018 01:39PM) (new)

Therese Love your post above, thank you for sharing. What's new with you M.F? Have been reading as usual. Reviews I found most taxing to do were Chasing the Sea, about the man-induced disappearance of the Aral Sea. This led to Solzhenitzyn's Cancer Ward, a natural progression as the author of CTS spent some time in Tashkent, where the actual cancer ward was situated. This was a re-reading of this book that I loved and will probably read again. Latest review was Alter Egos, Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama etc. Much against my inclination I ended up liking, if that is the correct word, Clinton more than Obama. I found him shallow, vain, patronizing, petty, needy and controlling. If you want to know how I really feel about him, read the GR review. Tell me your latest outings, please, also what you have been reading yourself. Cheers.


message 2: by Martin (new)

Martin Fletcher Hi Therese, this is a very belated response! Sorry! I just finished Salman Rushdie's book Joseph Anton, about his years in hiding from Iranian fatwa killers. It's full of anecdotes, name-dropping, and very visceral descriptions of his fears and loves. Fascinating. How are you??


message 3: by Therese (last edited Jul 10, 2018 01:47PM) (new)

Therese Must get Joseph Anton. We were at a diplomatic dinner in Harare (my husband was Canadian Ambassador, talk inevitably turned to Salman Rushdie and the fatwa against him. It was enlightening to note that the Pakistani Amb. was pro-fatwa, while the Palestinian rep was against it. Have been binge-reading Harry Bingham's books about Welsh Detective Sergeant Fiona Griffiths. She out-does Lizbeth Salander in ferocity and resolve. Now bracing myself for the wall-to-wall blather about the Kavanaugh nomination to the SCOTUS. This on top of the disturbing phenomenon of Trump locking babies in cages, and the sycophantic failure of Republicans to break ranks with Trump. To quote Sean O'Casey, "the country is in a state of chassis" (chaos). Best wishes.


message 4: by Martin (new)

Martin Fletcher Therese wrote: "Must get Joseph Anton. We were at a diplomatic dinner in Harare (my husband was Canadian Ambassador, talk inevitably turned to Salman Rushdie and the fatwa against him. It was enlightening to note ..."
When were you in Harare? You know Peter Kent? He and I were room-mates when we were reporting on the war in Rhodesia and the end of Apartheid in South Africa.


message 5: by Therese (last edited Jul 10, 2018 07:28PM) (new)

Therese 1984/89 for my husband, 1990 for me. Roger (Bull) was called one of the Three Horsemen against Apartheid, along with Cdn. High Commissioner Roy Mc Murtry in London, and Cdn. Amb to UN Stephen Lewis. Those were heady days when everything was possible in Zimbabwe. Sally Mugabe was a great friend, after she died Robert wilfully took poor Zim to hell in a hand-cart. She was the only person he every fully trusted. Since she was Ghanian she was not shy about expressing her opinions. She would not appove of what Bob did to the country.


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