From the first day of life there is one plan for us -- to learn. We learn from breaking; from feeling lost, untethered to the "whole."
The dark comes, early or late. We learn from walking in it, knowing the morning will not come again in this life. The plan was to learn by breaking -- the pain held, carried this long way by some ferocious miracle.
I see that four of your books are under "Dr. Matthew McKay PhD" and I thought you might want to correct that author name so that it syncs with your Goodreads profile (I can't change it).