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Well said. I Love stance and I actually agree with you. A mother that truly loves her children will discipline them accordingly. Disciplining your children from a placed called Love even when it involves spankings doesnt have any correlation with beatings
I read "The Color of Water" twice. I was surprised at this comment. I don't remember anything about beatings or spankings.
One thing that is missing in the current dialogue of being is that making mistakes doesn't make us bad people and that context is everything. A mother can yell at her children and still be an amazing woman and mother. People can fight and it doesn't mean things are over or forever damaged. Life happens. Walking away doesn't make it better. Appreciating our common humanity does.
Bravo! Parents give discipline out of love. Me thinks this questioner is concentrating too much on one passage where you talked about that after you step-dad had died. Correct? I personally loved your book, and was simply amazed at your mother's story. God bless her and you. One can feel your love in your writing.
one can dislike a person's actions yet still be able to like the person. Letting go of the past and practicing forgiveness is a healthy way to travel through life.
Those were the times and James was a rascal. Look at how the children turned out--ALL OF THEM. What an AMAZING, dedicated, loving mother. I loved your mother because you wrote HER with such love. I've read your book now, twice and I must buy it so I can keep your mother with me for the tough days. Thank you for this gift.
I got spanked as a child and it worked well for me. My parents were always careful to make sure I understood why I was getting spanked. Honestly I don't think much else would have worked. I didn't care about time-outs or disapproving looks, haha.
I suggested and read Color of Water for our reading club years ago. I absolutely loved the book. There is a insurmountable gulf between spanking and beating that unfortunately gets crossed by many parents. We adopted six mixed race older children a couple of whom had been beaten as children so we were careful not to use any kind of physical discipline. Each child and situation is different and often spanking can have adverse effects, But, as others have noted this book is about love and a remarkable woman (see my review) that's wonderful.
LOVE the Color of Water!!! Period. My mother spanked me (and my siblings) when we were young. I am 61 and not damaged. Certain truths exist in "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Why are there more and more terrible adults who are so spoiled and self-centred these days? I wonder.
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Well said. I Love stance and I actually agree with you. A mother that truly loves her children will discipline them accordingly. Disciplining your children from a placed called Love even when it involves spankings doesnt have any correlation with beatings
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I read "The Color of Water" twice. I was surprised at this comment. I don't remember anything about beatings or spankings.
One thing that is missing in the current dialogue of being is that making mistakes doesn't make us bad people and that context is everything. A mother can yell at her children and still be an amazing woman and mother. People can fight and it doesn't mean things are over or forever damaged. Life happens. Walking away doesn't make it better. Appreciating our common humanity does.
Bravo! Parents give discipline out of love. Me thinks this questioner is concentrating too much on one passage where you talked about that after you step-dad had died. Correct? I personally loved your book, and was simply amazed at your mother's story. God bless her and you. One can feel your love in your writing.
one can dislike a person's actions yet still be able to like the person. Letting go of the past and practicing forgiveness is a healthy way to travel through life.
Those were the times and James was a rascal. Look at how the children turned out--ALL OF THEM. What an AMAZING, dedicated, loving mother. I loved your mother because you wrote HER with such love. I've read your book now, twice and I must buy it so I can keep your mother with me for the tough days. Thank you for this gift.
I got spanked as a child and it worked well for me. My parents were always careful to make sure I understood why I was getting spanked. Honestly I don't think much else would have worked. I didn't care about time-outs or disapproving looks, haha.
I suggested and read Color of Water for our reading club years ago. I absolutely loved the book. There is a insurmountable gulf between spanking and beating that unfortunately gets crossed by many parents. We adopted six mixed race older children a couple of whom had been beaten as children so we were careful not to use any kind of physical discipline. Each child and situation is different and often spanking can have adverse effects, But, as others have noted this book is about love and a remarkable woman (see my review) that's wonderful.
LOVE the Color of Water!!! Period. My mother spanked me (and my siblings) when we were young. I am 61 and not damaged. Certain truths exist in "Spare the rod, spoil the child." Why are there more and more terrible adults who are so spoiled and self-centred these days? I wonder.
