Patti Kimler
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C. JoyBell C.:
I just read a quote from you on vulnerability. "It's the hard things that break. Soft things don't break." Love this. It makes it so much easier to believe the abundant gifts of vulnerability when I consider that it deeply resonates with a part of myself that has been so denied...my authentic feminine desire. How do you view keeping yourself safe differs from staying "softened" in relationships? Thank you. <3
C. JoyBell C.
Hi Patti! So sorry for this late reply. I am just seeing this question only now! How are you doing? Are you currently in quarantine?
I'm really glad to hear how this writing of mine has a profound impact on your life. So glad about this.
To answer your question, when it comes to relationships, I think staying "soft", from the female perspective, has a lot to do with staying in love with yourself, as opposed to throwing your love like a blanket over the man and putting all of your value on how he reciprocates, or if he even reciprocates at all. Men really just want to feel attraction as opposed to feeling loved and we maintain this as women by really staying so much in love with ourselves in the way that we are able to maintain our allure to the opposite sex. We lose that softness when we throw our love like a blanket over a man and we don't feel the same value coming back to us: that develops anger, bitterness, hate, revenge... just love yourself and give to yourself; this always keeps you soft.
I hope this answer helps and I hope you'll feel free to contact me on instagram or on facebook. Do take care!
Bells
I'm really glad to hear how this writing of mine has a profound impact on your life. So glad about this.
To answer your question, when it comes to relationships, I think staying "soft", from the female perspective, has a lot to do with staying in love with yourself, as opposed to throwing your love like a blanket over the man and putting all of your value on how he reciprocates, or if he even reciprocates at all. Men really just want to feel attraction as opposed to feeling loved and we maintain this as women by really staying so much in love with ourselves in the way that we are able to maintain our allure to the opposite sex. We lose that softness when we throw our love like a blanket over a man and we don't feel the same value coming back to us: that develops anger, bitterness, hate, revenge... just love yourself and give to yourself; this always keeps you soft.
I hope this answer helps and I hope you'll feel free to contact me on instagram or on facebook. Do take care!
Bells
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Craig Froman
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C. JoyBell C.:
Whenever I search for a quote on Goodreads, you are always one of the authors in the search. Then I saw your bio: "C. JoyBell C. is the most frequently quoted Author on Goodreads." Haha! So now coming up with a question: C.S. Lewis is an influencer of your life. Have you read Till We Have Faces? Queen Orual is one of the most powerful, tragic, rich, deep, mystical characters I've ever encountered in literature.
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