Controlling Others Quotes

“When you let go of control and commit yourself to happiness, it is so easy to offer compassion and forgiveness. This propels you from the past, into the present. People that are negative, spend so much time trying to control situations and blame others for their problems. Committing yourself to staying positive is a daily mantra that states, “I have control over how I plan to react, feel, think and believe in the present. No one guides the tone of my life, except me!”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“True love is built on free will and free choice, not control and manipulation.”
― Ken Poirot

“make an agreement to exercise mutual control over each other. The unspoken pact between them is, “It’s my job to make you happy, and your job to make me happy. And the best way to get you to work on my life is to act miserable. The more miserable I am, the more you will have to try to make me feel better.” Powerless people use various tactics, such as getting upset, withdrawing, nagging, ridiculing, pouting, crying, or getting angry, to pressure, manipulate, and punish one another into keeping this pact. However, this ongoing power play does nothing to make them happy and mitigate their anxiety in the long term. In fact, their anxiety only escalates by continually affirming that they are not actually powerful. Any sense of love and safety they feel by gaining or surrendering control is tenuous and fleeting. A relational bond built on mutual control simply cannot produce anything remotely like safety, love, or trust. It can only produce more fear, pain, distrust, punishment, and misery. And when taken to an extreme, it produces things like domestic violence.”
― Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“People turned against each other cannot turn against those responsible.”
― DaShanne Stokes

“You always seek to control others when you are not in full ownership of yourself.”
― Cicely Tyson, Just as I Am

“When people are vulnerable to control, they feel that they are selfish for deciding what to do with their own property. In reality, deciding for ourselves is the only way we can ever have true love, for then we are giving freely.”
― Henry Cloud, Changes That Heal: How to Understand the Past to Ensure a Healthier Future

“A bird cannot love freely when caged.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

“No one has the patent on you.”
― Katie St. Claire

“Self-centered people often get angry when someone tells them no.

Stan said yes out of fear that he would lose love and that other people would get angry at him. These false motives and others keep us from setting boundaries:”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

“The people’s silence is a tyrant’s greatest advocate. The less captives talked, the less they knew; the less they knew, the more they feared; and the more they feared, the more easily others could manipulate them to their own ends, the more easily the captives could be controlled.”
― John Kramer, Blythe

“The more we're thrown into conflict with each other through engineered distrust, the less able we are to unite against those responsible.”
― DaShanne Stokes

“Controlling my environment was still a compelling need for me. I did everything I could to not be surprised by anything...

Looking back, I think that my need to predict how my day was going to unfold was a direct response to the amount of chaos in my childhood.”
― Olga Trujillo, The Sum of My Parts: A Survivor's Story of Dissociative Identity Disorder

“You can’t control the weather, but that doesn’t stop some people from trying.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“The pursuit of goodness leads to greatness, but the pursuit of greatness, whether by a man or a nation, leads to ruin…. [G]ood men build; great men destroy. They destroy because they try to control something other than themselves and that always leads to destruction.”
― John Kramer, Blythe

“Domineering-types may appear omnipotent but, inevitably, will smother everything they love and lose all.”
― Stewart Stafford

“To take back your power in any given situation, focus on the things you can control. The thoughts you choose to think is usually the best place to start.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“If they cannot control you in the four directions, they will control you inside the four walls”
― P.S. Jagadeesh Kumar

“Control leaves no room for trust.”
― Glennon Doyle, Untamed: Stop Pleasing, Start Living / A Toolkit for Modern Life

“All you can do is try. You cannot control another’s reactions. And if you truly accept that, you’ll have peace no matter the outcome.”
― Melanie A. Smith, Finding His Redemption

“Attempting to constantly control everyone and everything around you is not only exhausting...it is also futile. The only real power you can achieve in this life is being in control of yourself.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“What is meant to stay cannot be taken. What is meant to go cannot be held.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“Like anything, religion can be abused, and some who follow religion are easy to manipulate. That’s why our military uses it for initiation. They don’t want a soldier who is worried about death, so they tell them they go to an afterlife. It’s tactically smart but morally wrong. As a war general, you get yourself a useful pawn.”
― William Staikos, Untold Deception

“Good boy." Vyergin winked. "No point in wasting your days trying to control what you can't.”
― Diane E. Steinbach, Song of Mornius

“He [March Briscoe] had been so preoccupied with his inability to control himself, he hadn't realize that even when you controlled yourself, you couldn't control other people.”
― Stacey Swann, Olympus, Texas

“Thoughtfully Fit is all about focusing on how you can be different—not anyone else. This isn’t about changing your boss or your spouse or your neighbor. Only they can do that. All you can do is change yourself.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“We’re held hostage by the stories that other
people write for us and about us. We
don’t stop long enough to question why the
story was written and whose purpose it
serves.”
― Kathy Sparrow, Ignite Your Leadership: Proven Tools for Leaders to Energize Teams, Fuel Momentum and Accelerate Results

“Once you know how to shift your energy, no one will be able to control your energy!”
― Curtis Tyrone Jones

“One does not accept a name. The ancestors choose our names for us. We do not have a choice of accepting — we are named and then are thus known as what we are named. There is no choice involved." -- Regra”
― Faye Hollidaye, The Other Way

“Do you know in this world, power is not just about strength, power, true power is about control, control over yourself, over others, and over everything.

By John C. Okoro”
― John Okoro