Grooming Quotes

“I don’t feel forced, and I know I have the power to say no, but that isn’t the same as being in charge.”
― Kate Elizabeth Russell, My Dark Vanessa

“He loves me so he hurts me
To try and make me good.
It doesn't work. I'm just too bad
And don't do what I should.

My memory has so many different sections and, like all survivors, there are so many compartments with so many triggers. I'll remember a smell which reminds me of a man which reminds me of a place which reminds me of another man who I think was with a woman who had a certain smell — and I'm back to square one. This is the case for most survivors, I believe. When we try to put together our pasts, the triggers are many and varied, the memories are disjointed — and why wouldn't they be? We were children. Even someone with an idyllic childhood who is only trying to remember the lovely things which happened to them will scratch their head and wonder who gave them that doll and was it for Christmas or their third birthday? Did they have a party when they were four or five? When did they go on a plane for the first time? You see, even happy memories are hard to piece together — so imagine how hard it is to collate all of the trauma, to pull together all of the things I've been trying to push away for so many years.”
― Laurie Matthew, Groomed

“It doesn't matter if you come from money or you are poor: If your family has already made you feel that you are not worthy, you begin to believe it, and when someone comes along and tells you that you are beautiful/special/wonderful and showers you with attention and gifts, or offers you money when you desperately need it, you are vulnerable and ready to trust”
― Patti Feuereisen, Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse

“The little girl's dependency on her father made [his] abuse more insidious.”
― Joan Frances Casey, The Flock: The Autobiography of a Multiple Personality

“Casting him in the role of child molester meant casting myself in the role of victim, and I just couldn’t go there. I couldn’t accept that all his praises—all those affirmations an eighth-grade girl desperately needs to hear—came from a place of malevolence, and I was stupid and vain enough to buy it.”
― Paris Hilton, Paris: The Memoir

“The narcissist is a master of manipulation. To maintain the illusion of power over you, they employ the use of third parties to gaslight you, manipulate you, and to bully you. They try to groom your friends, family, children, spouse, or intimate partner from the moment they meet them. Initially, the narcissist is testing them. To see how strong your other relationship bonds are in effort to triangulate them.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“Shaving is always cathartic, much like showering, changing out of clothes, anything where what once was carried during a moment or period of distress is purged.”
― A.D. Aliwat, In Limbo

“Growing be the goal
Success will follow ~”
― Tanya Gambhir

“I interpreted his heartbeat to be some sort of Morse code for his feelings, but maybe I was imagining substance where there was only air.”
― Megan Farison, Dissonance

“CUTTING YOUR HAIR AT REGULAR INTERVALS IS A WAY TO HONE YOUR SELF-DISCIPLINE.”
― Shoukei Matsumoto, A Monk’s Guide to A Clean House & Mind

“Shakespeare may have said it in Hamlet that "clothes maketh a man." And this may not be entirely wrong, as a man’s choice of clothes certainly plays an important part in making the man’s overall personality.”
― Avijeet Das

“I grew up with the understanding that personal presentation is a way to show respect. I might be most comfortable in jeans and an old T-shirt, but I dress up to go to the theater out of admiration for the performers. I wouldn’t dream of wearing sweatpants to temple, or to church.”
― Sue Klebold, A Mother's Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath of Tragedy

“Beauty comes in all shapes, colours and sizes and when we can accept this truth, we will no longer hurt ourselves or each other for the simple things that make us human.”
― Gregory Landsman, Face Value: Save Your Money and Your Skin: Transform Your Skin At Any Age With Proven Natural DIY Skincare Solutions

“I wasn't afraid to go into business for my self. I once spent 3 years making a loss and not making money. I applaud my self for that because I was going through grooming that law school could not give me .I have reinvented my self enough times and I kept on going. I kept the passion and believing in the future even though others did not
I have been broke and in debt in the tens of thousands , I have gone through hand to mouth and mouth to the Superbowl. I have failed in business and yes I have succeeded too. I am not afraid of failure ,ridicule ,criticism, or being laughed at. I remain strong going hard against all odds cashing in from the creations of my mind with no doubt or turning back
My name is Tare Munzara I am Professional dreamer. What are you?”
― Tare Munzara

“With your room allawence, this mountains stumbled you to succeed must fall.”
― Nozipho N.Maphumulo

“By reaching your goal means Grow to some level and tell show you how brave and strong you're.not give you a permition for being bossy to others.”
― Nozipho N. Maphumulo

“By reaching your goal means you grow in some level and show you how well you've done? how strong, brave you're not being bossy and abuse other people rights.”
― Nozipho N.Maphumulo

“Physical quitting food doesn't make you finish strong you see that starch you quited? it what you need.Food is for body eat it in a right way and time limit it instead of cut it off cause the work of power sometimes you doing physical or spiritual need healthy spirit and body and life living as whole demand healthy life more than that some of works or things not belong to you belong to God so you not him get that.”
― Nozipho N.Maphumulo

“As you standing there looking,pointing or judging your neighbour by his fall did you ever think about yours?cause I know that fall is for everyone who living and sent for purpose cause the message & you must be tested and you need to know how it strong it is,how big your master is.Think about this, who can believe and trust untested service? that means it unfinish peace of work while your master call himself by Alfa and Omega which is beginning and the End that is our Living God.”
― Nozipho N.Maphumulo

“Your teasing tone,
The skin I never once felt,
Your charming enthral that leaves me shaking in terror.”
― C. L. Adams, Barely Thoughts

“A bald spot also needs to be combed.”
― Tamerlan Kuzgov

“According to [U.S. Representative Clay Higgins] it is libraries that are grooming children for sexual abuse. Not the church, where abuse is actually happening. No, we're going to make THOSE the libraries... It makes no sense whatsoever and ignores actual abuse.”
― Amanda Jones, That Librarian: The Fight Against Book Banning in America

“There are so many little things to do just to maintain the body.”
― Charlee Dyroff, Loneliness & Company

“I told Ian, "When I think of sexual assault, I think of a child lying in their bed and someone coming into their room at night."

Ian's voice hardened. "I think of a girl being locked in a band room by her teacher.”
― Megan Farison, Dissonance

“One woman reminded me of you. The day she testified, she woke up still wondering whose side she was going to be on.”
― Megan Farison, Dissonance

“Chris's apartment was like a time capsule, and every time I stepped through the door I became one of its many preserved fixtures, reprising my role as the submissive starry-eyed girl, again and again and again.”
― Megan Farison, Dissonance

“We lived separate lives, but I believed wholeheartedly that we shared the same reality.”
― Megan Farison, Dissonance

“He cut the connection. The dogs had moved down to the lagoon. I trailed after them, stopping where they'd been rolling. A dead raccoon. When I'd persuaded them to get back in the car, I was annoyed with myself for my stupidity in letting them run free. They stank, and it was too cold to ride the Tollway with the windows open.

I drove along Dundee Road until I came to a groomer's. I had to wait almost an hour until they could fit in Mitch and Peppy, but the wait al-lowed me to catch up on the rest of my calls. Even the expense of two shampoos beat wrestling the dogs into my own bathtub at home.”
― Sara Paretsky, Body Work

“Grooming, in all its forms, is a language of connection, trust, and care.”
― Ken Breniman, Subversive Acts of Humanity : A Survival Guide for Choosing Evolution over Self-Destruction

“He was nearing his final act in life, and he did not want to be alone at the end. In turn, he would offer Tina what no man her age could. With tears in his eyes, he told Tina and her family she could do whatever she wanted with her life. Go to Radcliffe, if it called to her, and live anywhere in the world. She taught about the barn that Ed bought Deb after high school, and she felt ill because she understood how it was Deb was so miserable doing whatever she wanted with her life too.”
― Jessica Knoll, Bright Young Women