Guidance For Life Quotes

“A highly developed values system is like a compass. It serves as a guide to point you in the right direction when you are lost.”
― Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability

“Dear young woman, do not place your sense of beauty and self worth, upon the plastic pedestal called "what other people say to you", "what other people think about your photo", "how many 'likes' your pictures get", "how many guys tell you that you look sexy", "how skinny can you be?". A plastic pedestal that is but the dismal shadow of the real one. Dear young woman, place your sense of self worth and beauty upon the Roman marble pedestal that will exist even when all other people are no longer there. If you were the very last person on this planet, you should still be able to know within your heart that you are worthy, you are beautiful, you are wanted. Even if you become the very last person on Earth, you should be fully wanted. Want yourself. Know yourself. See yourself as beautiful, see yourself as worthy.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The older we get, the more picky we become about the expenditure of our energies. The older we become, the more we ask ourselves "Is this person worth the energy? The time?" And, "Is this situation worth this kind of energy and time?" We become choosy about who and what we spend energy on. We allow ourselves to be freed from the people and the things that simply don't deserve our life force. The older we get, the more we realise how precious our life force is and how much we ought to guard it, and keep ourselves wrapped inside the kind of energies that serve our purpose.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We can be walking around in this world, with bits and pieces of our souls scattered in different time loops and space cracks. You feel like you are always looking for yourself, because you actually are always looking for yourself! You're always looking for those bits and pieces of you. You've got to sit down and remember where you left them at. You've got to quiet the noise and go back to those loops in time and cracks in space that you forgot about and you need to understand yourself in those moments, and embrace yourself. And maybe even embrace those who were around you, with you. That's how you get those pieces back, that's how you sew them back into you.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“If you want to access your power as a divine human being, you must search for the small inside of the big and for the big inside of the small. When you look up into the expanse of sky overhead, look for the stars, the planets, the birds that fly. Small things for the eye to spot. And when you look down into the the face of a streetside flower, look for joy, happiness, comfort, stillness, and a silent song. When you have mastered finding the small in the big and the big in the small, you will have mastered your own divinity.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“The only reason to be in a relationship or in a marriage, is if at the end of the day when the music stops playing and all the people go home and the lights are off and it's quiet and you're alone with that person -- you still don't feel alone. That one person makes you unalone. Because even while the music is playing and all the other people are with you and the lights are on and it's noisy inside of your head -- you're still all alone if that person isn't with you. You need to be with the person that never makes you alone. Even at the end of the day when everything else is gone.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Lots of people wait around "for the right time". People don't know that there is no such thing as a right time. Time is never right nor wrong. The only negative factor of time is that you can lose it and the only positive factor of time is that you can seize it.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Love a person who is quite unloved, rather than a person who is very much loved. People who feel unloved treat it as a luxury, a hidden treasure, a gem. People who felt loved all their lives treat it as a birthright, an entitlement, a necessary materiality. Give water to the thirsty, they know what water should taste like.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“In a noisy world like ours, the best gift to have is a quiet mind. In a dangerous world like this one, the best gift to own is a calm soul. In a life like we are placed in, the best gift to receive is a serene outlook. May we have all three of these gifts.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Make no excuses for your authority nor for your fierce grace. Make no apologies for your boundaries nor for your decision to be vulnerable.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We need to be looking for the seed of life in another person, and letting the presence or the absence of it determine whom we step closer towards and whom we back away from. The seed of life. You can feel it in the middle of your chest, connecting to the middle of their chest, it tells you there is life for you waiting on the path with them. And when it's not there, there is no path of life for you together, let go of them and turn elsewhere.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“What matters is not what we do, or to whom we give. What matters is that we let our lives be guided by Love.”
― Peter M Parr

“Those that feel shame, will want you to feel shame. Those that cannot speak, will want to cut your tongue. Those who are in cages, will trip you with sticks and pull you into their cages. Things never never want to be alone: bound things, shamed things, mute things-- they never want to be alone. They are the plagues of life. Rid yourself of them.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I realised one day not so long ago, that I believe in many things, but that I do not trust any of them. I have, for the longest time, not trusted anything that I believe in. And so it dawned upon me: that belief and trust are two entirely different things. One may believe wholeheartedly without trusting for a minute. I have been like a seed in the ground: believing that the Sun is shining somewhere up there; believing that rain falls and that it probably feels really good too; believing that there is Winter and Summer, Spring and Fall... but never trusting anything that I believe in enough to break through the soil and reach my branches up towards the sky! The French have a saying from the 15'th Century: "Fleuris là où tu es plantée", which means, "Bloom where you are planted". Blooming has everything to do with trust, I have discovered, and very little to do with belief. To become anything at all, the seed must trust. And so shall I.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“If there is but one prayer that we should pray, it should be only this one: "Guide my hope away from all that I should not hope in and bridle my trust so that I trust in only what I can trust in. May I have a mind calm and serenely resting in the knowledge that my hope and my trust will never mislead me." A short and simple prayer, and the only one we really need to be praying.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“I have, for a long time now, been responsible for advisiving people to "let it go". I have since discovered that there are things that cannot be let go of, and in such cases, you must "let it flow". So let it be known, that I am saying, "let it flow". See where the river leads!”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Consider the blue rose: if she were to say, "I will only bloom when I am blue", then she would never bloom at all. Blue roses do not exist. But the blue rose is a rose that bloomed white, then somebody's hands came to paint her blue later on. Someone saw her, and painted blue on her. There would be no blue roses at all if white ones didn't bloom where they are planted. Things change. Bloom now.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“People like to catch lights and put them inside their jars, so they can say they're lightkeepers. They like to capture bolts of lightning, the aurora borealis, flames and rainbows. If you are any of these, your friends and family and random passersby are going to want to control you in one way or the other. Don't be captured. Don't be put into their jars.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“And the Hand that guides us towards our soul’s purpose is the fountain of courage that already resides within us, ever whispering it’s messages of encouragement, calling us towards those destinations amongst the trail of stars that will illuminate our way back home”
― Mimi Novic, The Silence Between the Sighs

“I have learned that we may spend our time forging fiery darts, or we may spend our time crafting hyacinth garlands. Both are weapons. One puts us on the battle field, the other places us on the mountaintop. The choice is all our own.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“We must not judge those whose shoes we are unable to walk in ourselves. Every human has an intuitive, guidance that is often clear to them but not to others”
― Ashta-Deb, Life Happens To Us: A True Story

“Intention directs perception”
― Jaco Snoek

“A not-so-easy pill to swallow, is the fact that much of the time, you are fighting monsters that you yourself have fashioned. Yes, there are toxic relationships, toxic individuals, but there also exists the monsters that you have fashioned with your own mind. You think you are being chased, captured, wounded, by these monsters when in fact you alone are composed of the entire capability to dismantle them piece-by-piece, because in reality they exist in your mind and you have fashioned them as the creator of your inner world, as the author of your own epic tale. In this sense, you may reassemble your world and you may remake the plot of your own story. The key is realising how much of the darkness is actually your own doing, digging for their roots, and figuring out how to begin dismantling.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Thinking is a defense mechanism. Not all the time, of course, but when in situations where strong emotions are involved, throwing yourself into your head is a way to keep yourself out of your feelings and out of your body. Your feelings need to pass through your body, you need to feel them run through your body in order to let go of anything. But that's an excruciating experience and we keep on trying to protect ourselves from it by running into our heads, being analytical, being logical, and doing everything to stay in our brains. This has been my own number one defense mechanism, the wall that I know I need to tear down a little more each day.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“You tend to think that you are mainly the big blotches on the canvas: the big splashes that you want to draw attention to (you're aiming for the Olympics one day, you're into drag racing, you're working for a luxury company in Paris, so on and so forth). But those big blotches that you want to draw attention to aren't you, at the end of the day. At the end of the day, you are the tiny dots that you've pulled together, the small dots on your canvas which you've pulled together that make up the fundamental person that you are: the way you put a flower on your slice of cake, the way you mop your floor three times because once isn't good enough, the way that you nurture another person who is growing on the same path you have already been through, so on and so forth. You are the accumulation of the attention that you put into your daily, mundane actions which lend life to your existence. Or character to your daily life. That is you. That is what you have to give. That is your energy. Your big blotches have no power if your little dots are not accounted for.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Kindness is not a concept we throw around ourselves to decorate ourselves with, like robes we wear and then take off when we come home. But kindness is a presence, a phantom in our lives, a ghost, that we must choose to invite into our very present moments. ”
― C. JoyBell C.

“Good things in life are like a flowing river, in order for it to flow, you need to take the boulder out. You are the boulder: your need to control outcomes, to direct results, to strangle a thing until you've understood it; that's what turns you into a boulder in the middle of your own life. Let the good things happen to you. Get out of the way.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“It is important to reside in a location in which the environment will have a positive impact internally and externally upon yourself and your family. Neglecting this important element can have a major impact for years to come.


Reference: Genesis 19(Read how Sodom & Gomorrah effected Lot and his family)”
― Augusta Hathaway, A.D. Hathaway

“Leaves fall and nourish us all as soil becomes rich with the rootedness of all. Every cycle awaits us with a kiss. Luscious and luxurious is each moment. "Receive me", says the spirit of the breath.”
― Ulonda Faye, Sutras of the Heart: Spiritual Poetry to Nourish the Soul

“The mountain does not bow to the climber.
Each misstep is not defeat, but a lesson--
Each fall a chance to rise anew.
So do not curse the climb,
for the summit is seen by those who persist
Even when the winds resist.”
― Rachael (self)