Proud Of It! discussion

I didnt acually came out, i posted something on FB and my parents found out >:D

they were fine~

whaaa sadness, i acually was deathly afraid of that hey! can you make a thing for sexual abuse?

kk! heya i can make it if your busy

kk!

i see~

I'm 25 years old. I've known I was gay since I was about 12.

I 'came out' to my friends when I was 18, but not entirely of my own accord. I 'came out' to my family when I was '19.'

Coming out is hard, especially when you aren't sure how your friends and family will take it. Honestly, I was going to 'come out' once I got into college and was on my own, but it didn't happen.

I crushed on my childhood friend for years. When we were in high school, I finally got the nerve to ask her if she was interested. She turned me down, politely, but word gets around fast and before I knew it, my whole school knew about the fact I was a lesbian. Girls hated me for it. I was bullied after that- shoved into locker, cruel pranks, beating up in the school bathroom, the whole 9 yards. My senior year of high school was hell...

I got through it though, and I'd never go back to my high school reunion.

My parents found out through pestering my siblings into finally saying 'she doesn't have a boyfriend' (they're cool; they never cared about my sexuality. I was still the same person to them.) ... and then they confronted me. I admitted that yes, I was dating women.

My dad was actually pretty okay with it. My mom went ballistic. She locked me out of my own house on the nights I went to hang out with my girlfriend (without my dad's knowledge. They are divorced now, and Dad says if he had known, he wouldn't have let that happen... but I was scared of both of them at the time, honestly.) Thankfully, her folks didn't mind me using their couch a few times.

You never know who is going to react what way when you come out, but boy, did I feel better about myself. Before then, I felt like I was living a lie. I didn't feel good about myself. When I came out, I felt free.

Yeah, bullying hurts. Yeah, alienation hurts. It was a time when I didn't feel confident in myself and I didn't know who to trust. I was self-abusive; I was suicidal.... but the few friends, my real friends, they helped me see the light... got me help. And you know what, I'm okay now.

It really does get better. But coming out is a brave step, a hard step, and it's the best thing I ever did for myself.

Because I can feel like I'm really me. I'm not living someone else's life. I'm living mine. And I'm going to do it my way.

I'm straight, but I have a number of friends who are not. I didn't know that about any of them when I met them, but it doesn't change a thing. I have a dear friend from childhood who came out to me as a lesbian, and I was touched that she trusted me enough to do that, and I gave her my 100% support. A few weeks ago, I was the first person she told (outside of her partner - they're legally married) that she is transsexual and is going to be transitioning to male soon. I still give her my 100% support, and she made me cry when she said that she values my friendship that much. I'd be lying if I said I understood it, because I don't and never will, and I really don't have to, but it is going to take some getting used to. I don't mean that in a negative way at all - she should be who she feels she is, but once she starts transitioning, it will be weird to refer to her in the male sense. I am glad that she has a name that can be either male or female, and does not plan to change the name. That will help.

In the interim, if anyone knows of a group for friends and supporters of transitioning people, please pass a link along. It would be nice to have a place to ask questions and not seem insensitive or hurt my friend's feelings.

I kinda have the same thing with the transitioning friend. My friend (who is a guy) is planning to become a transgender when he gets enough money. I am trying to support him all I can, but truthfully it gets kinda awkward when I talk to him about it.

Hi!! I'm actually straight but a huge advocate for LGBT acceptance. In fact, one of my best friends was withdrawn from school this year when her parents found out she was bisexual. They have cut off all communication for her. I will probably never see her again, and I worry about her every day.

Yeah it is. I've always been supportive though!! :) Why should loving someone make you a bad person?

I actually fell out of the closet, some guy figured it out and then he used it against me and I was forced to tell my best friend then after a while she made me tell my other friend but then people started asking me and I pretty much said figure it out. Then somehow my whole school found out and I have no idea how. I told my dad but didn't tell my mom and my therapist told my mom. Well, I actually came out to both my parents when I was 13 but they didn't believe me but now three years later I am officially out. Well it doesn't say on my facebook or anything because I have my grandmother on there and shes really homophobic so I don't want her to find out, but my cousins know. So a lot of people know

I grew up, thinking I liked boys. I talked about my crushes with my friends and we giggled at each other, daring each other to ask them out. Like normal girls.
One of my friends, Clarisse, was very pretty in my opinion. She wasn't afraid to be herself. She wasn't very girlie and she was super funny. She was my closest friend.
I. fourth grade, we were on a field trip at an animal refuge. We were watching a video, and me and Clarisse had a mutual moment, were we both felt the same way. We turned to look at each other, and I felt the desire to kiss her. I knew that wasn't normal.
I still liked boys, and I never mentioned the incident to anyone. No one. Not my closest friends. I knew I was bisexual, and in fifth grade I told my friends. I was at a different school, and none of the girls I told were Clarisse.
One day, I just lost interest in boys altogether, and I have just kept to myself and ignored the world ever since.
Any idea how to tell my parents?
I've never told anyone I was lesbian until I was on Goodreads. It was in another group, but this was the second place, and it's my safe home.
If any of you ever need to talk to me, about anything, Im definitely here, and I would love for you to PM me, I love you all and would love to help. I hope you take me up on this :)
~Kassi

Thank you.

Yup :p

Why? I haven't told my family!

Okay. I love you for helping me..

The whole 'getting out' situation with me is complicated.

I know that my parents would be okay with my sexual orientation, cos my mum is friends with a lesbian couple. But yet, I doubt they would take me seriously as I'm only 14.

With regards to school, about 10 people know I'm bisexual, and they are okay with it.
But with the exception of 4, I didn't want these people knowing. And it's cos of 2 of the people who I was okay with tellin, that the others knew.
Me and one of my friends (who doesn't know) were joking about in class the other week and invented this system, where if a person had straight hair, they were straight, curly meant they were bi and wavy meant they were gay. Issue is that she said about my hair being wavy and I really wanted to tell her that she was sort of right.
I know that I can trust this friend, but I'm unsure whether to tell her or not.

Jessy wrote: "Have you ever asked that friend if she's ok with the LGBT?"

Nope, but she has said in the past that she knows people who are LGBT and she's okay with that

whatever, I'm okay with talking openly because I know that here people will accept me for who I am.

Yeah, only issue with that is, if i tell her that means that 3/5 of my friends who I'm goin for meal with (for my birthday in Sept) will know, and I don't know whether I or they can remain silent around my other friends as well as my younger cousin (who is almost 13).

my gut says tell her, but my head says don't

I just don't understand how parents can react in a negative way to a gay child. I have a daughter who is 7, and if she someday tells me that she is in love with another girl, I will be fine with that. As long as this person loves her, treats her with respect and keeps her best interests at heart then I will be okay. She is the person I love most in this world and just the thought of being estranged from her breaks my heart.

My heart also breaks for all those kids who have met with rejection from their parents. Things shouldn't be this way.

.............sorry for being such a sappy Mom-type person here, but so many of you seem so young & vulnerable and needing to be understood.

I applaud all people who come out.

I'm not out so...

Are you in the closet? We still welcome and will be here for you. You don't have to come out until you are ready....if you need to that is!

I agree with Angelique.

On a positive note... Ellen's hosting the 2013 Oscars. :) I think it's awesome that you're all so brave to share here though. That takes courage and though it is not something I will ever experience, I do appreciate it.

Hey Aaron,,what's up?

Just woke up. Having coffee and checking out GR. What's up with you, Angelique?

Not much, I am watching Skyfalll and drooling over Daniel Craig.

I just saw Dream House starring Daniel Craig. Great actor!

I lust after Daniel Craig, and I agree love to watch him act!

Well, I don't lust after him, but he was great as James Bond and in other roles. Defiance was a great film.

What no lust? ..... Ok I will let that go. I obviously have not seen all of his movies!

Uh, no. No. See Dream House. What a grand performance he gives!

I. Will. Never. Come. Out.

Coming outs hardest towards the people you care about most.

But if they really love you, it won't matter. Just be who you are and never be ashamed.☺☺☺

Well i came out to my mom when i was 12. I had liked guys before i ever really thought about girls. now I've realized im actually panssexual . panssexuality is like bisexuality in the sense where you like guys and girls. but panssexual is more like you e njoy a person disregarding their gender.

First I've heard of the term Panssexual. I used to think I was Metrosexual until I looked it up. I'm not.

You all know it's normal for straight people to fantasize about the same sex?

Yeah. I knew that. I still just can't come out. Not to my family. No one knows about my girlfriend. Not even my nest friend.

What do you think will happen if you come out?

I don't know. Too much. Too much to handle.

Yeah, I'm sure it would be overwhelming for you. It's not easy, is it, admitting to family that you're gay. Even if they love you, it's still a shock for them.

A friend of mine came out to his family and they kicked him out of the house. I think that was terrible! Your own flesh and blood?

Other parents accept it and get used to the idea.

All I'm saying is you can't keep it a secret forever. It'll eat you up inside.

I just wish you much happiness and peace of mind.

I find it hardest to tell my best friend the bi. Every one else knows

I think I am transgender but I am not sure, someone mail me please, I am not sure and I need someone to ask me things to see if I really am :\ I am so confused.......

What kind of questions should we ask you?

I dunno :\

I can talk!