I was inspired by a link sent to me by Paul for the militantbaker blog (see our resources for the full link)in which she stated "30 things all fat girls should know...." She listed some very good things, and I feel that most of us know most of them if we have been big all of our lives. Like "all boobs are uneven" or "everyone has rolls."
I felt that she forgot a few things.
1) Fat moves. Sometimes you go one way and it goes the other.
2) Exercise is good for you,and only works when you find something you like to,so find something you like to do. Jog,swim,fence,Tai' Kwan Do,what have you. Your size does not mean that you can't do these things, society says, so show society it's wrong!
3) Smack society upside the head the next time you see it. It has had it coming for a long time. Society is a snarky piece of trash that thrives on making others miserable.
4) Stretch marks are very sensitive to the sun so wear extra sun screen on them.
5) Stretch marks are sensitive and can add to sexual pleasure when caressed the right way.
6) Have sex with the lights on! Get a nice dresser top lamp and use it! See your partner and let them see you. Trust me, it's more fun that way!
7)You have back rolls, tummy rolls, etc. Don't keep your partner from touching them. If your partner shies away from touching you in those places or seems disgusted by them, find a new partner.
8) YOU are YOU and YOU are wonderful! Yes, you are allowed to say that,believe it, embrace it, live it love it.
9) Feeling good about yourself is NOT a crime! You are allowed to feel good about being fat!
10) If you truly are unhappy with your size, then do something about it. Don't mope,start eating better, exercise more and get on with your life.
11) If you used to be fat, DO NOT LECTURE ME! DO NOT MAKE ME FEEL BAD BECAUSE I'M FINE WITH WHO I AM! Take your misery to somewhere else. If and only IF I am interested in having your help, I WILL ASK.
12)Fat takes time to catch up when you exercise so give your self a break.
13) Arm fat is not the end of the world, but it can try to kill you when you swim. (Personal note here. My arm flaps push water at me all the time and frequently try to drown me at least once a week.)
14)We all have something about ourselves we don't like and would like to change. If it is life threatening, have the surgery, If it will make you feel better, make the change, but don't let others tell you that you MUST do "________" to please them. Only please yourself.
15) Stand up for yourself. Don't let well meaning strangers make you feel bad for being who you are, nor let family members do the same. Do listen to family members and your doctor if they can give you a specific problem that needs to be addressed. Like, drug intervention and the like.
16) You have a pretty face, so show it off! Be in pictures! Quit hiding or holding your hand up. You have friends and they would like to pose with you!
17) Do not fall for the "well, if you lost _____lbs. I would like/love you more" garbage. If someone loves you for you, then size shouldn't be tied to attraction.
18) Fat is not a crime!
19) Being happy,grumpy, or any other feeling is your feeling and is just fine.
20) Fat people are not always jolly and that is fine. I'd like to know what fool came up with that one!
21) We all have our good days,bad days and days where nothing happens. It's all good. It makes you human.
22) Fat people are human beings. Yes, last time I checked, we are human beings. I am a human mammal with all the parts of a female and they all work just fine.
23) Being human is not a crime either.
24) F.A.'s exist and they are wonderful. There is nothing wrong with you for finding fat attractive. You are NOT broken. You are NOT weird. You are NOT strange. You are wise,sensitive,discerning individuals and you ARE greatly loved.
25) Stand up for yourself and others. Force clothing makers to make clothes for your size that FIT and are AFFORDABLE!
26) Don't let other people dictate who you are. Want pink hair? Then get pink hair.
27) You are you. You are the size you are because you are you. Embrace that.
28) If variety is the spice of life, then why do we have to all look alike?
29) Fat jiggles. It's not jelly but it shakes like it.
30) You are the most wonderful you you can be and no one else can be you. Why would you want to be any one else? Embrace what makes you you. I sing in public. I dance in public. I talk to strangers. I am who I am. I am me, and I am extraordinary.
I felt that she forgot a few things.
1) Fat moves. Sometimes you go one way and it goes the other.
2) Exercise is good for you,and only works when you find something you like to,so find something you like to do. Jog,swim,fence,Tai' Kwan Do,what have you. Your size does not mean that you can't do these things, society says, so show society it's wrong!
3) Smack society upside the head the next time you see it. It has had it coming for a long time. Society is a snarky piece of trash that thrives on making others miserable.
4) Stretch marks are very sensitive to the sun so wear extra sun screen on them.
5) Stretch marks are sensitive and can add to sexual pleasure when caressed the right way.
6) Have sex with the lights on! Get a nice dresser top lamp and use it! See your partner and let them see you. Trust me, it's more fun that way!
7)You have back rolls, tummy rolls, etc. Don't keep your partner from touching them. If your partner shies away from touching you in those places or seems disgusted by them, find a new partner.
8) YOU are YOU and YOU are wonderful! Yes, you are allowed to say that,believe it, embrace it, live it love it.
9) Feeling good about yourself is NOT a crime! You are allowed to feel good about being fat!
10) If you truly are unhappy with your size, then do something about it. Don't mope,start eating better, exercise more and get on with your life.
11) If you used to be fat, DO NOT LECTURE ME! DO NOT MAKE ME FEEL BAD BECAUSE I'M FINE WITH WHO I AM! Take your misery to somewhere else. If and only IF I am interested in having your help, I WILL ASK.
12)Fat takes time to catch up when you exercise so give your self a break.
13) Arm fat is not the end of the world, but it can try to kill you when you swim. (Personal note here. My arm flaps push water at me all the time and frequently try to drown me at least once a week.)
14)We all have something about ourselves we don't like and would like to change. If it is life threatening, have the surgery, If it will make you feel better, make the change, but don't let others tell you that you MUST do "________" to please them. Only please yourself.
15) Stand up for yourself. Don't let well meaning strangers make you feel bad for being who you are, nor let family members do the same. Do listen to family members and your doctor if they can give you a specific problem that needs to be addressed. Like, drug intervention and the like.
16) You have a pretty face, so show it off! Be in pictures! Quit hiding or holding your hand up. You have friends and they would like to pose with you!
17) Do not fall for the "well, if you lost _____lbs. I would like/love you more" garbage. If someone loves you for you, then size shouldn't be tied to attraction.
18) Fat is not a crime!
19) Being happy,grumpy, or any other feeling is your feeling and is just fine.
20) Fat people are not always jolly and that is fine. I'd like to know what fool came up with that one!
21) We all have our good days,bad days and days where nothing happens. It's all good. It makes you human.
22) Fat people are human beings. Yes, last time I checked, we are human beings. I am a human mammal with all the parts of a female and they all work just fine.
23) Being human is not a crime either.
24) F.A.'s exist and they are wonderful. There is nothing wrong with you for finding fat attractive. You are NOT broken. You are NOT weird. You are NOT strange. You are wise,sensitive,discerning individuals and you ARE greatly loved.
25) Stand up for yourself and others. Force clothing makers to make clothes for your size that FIT and are AFFORDABLE!
26) Don't let other people dictate who you are. Want pink hair? Then get pink hair.
27) You are you. You are the size you are because you are you. Embrace that.
28) If variety is the spice of life, then why do we have to all look alike?
29) Fat jiggles. It's not jelly but it shakes like it.
30) You are the most wonderful you you can be and no one else can be you. Why would you want to be any one else? Embrace what makes you you. I sing in public. I dance in public. I talk to strangers. I am who I am. I am me, and I am extraordinary.
Love,peace,and self worth be yours.