What's the Name of That Book??? discussion

I am trying to find a book about a big, poor Irish family that I read in the 1980s. It's almost impossible to search for this without running into "Angela's Ashes" but it was NOT that book. (It's also NOT "Yank".)

I have tried google searching and google books, and I've used the advanced search options, like putting a minus in front of "Angela's" and "Ashes" and it didn't help much.

I know I read it when I was still living at home with my parents, so it could not have been published later than 1990. I suspect it was published in the 70s or early 1980s.

I'm not 100 percent sure it was memoir. It could have been an autobiographical novel.

Two plot points I remember:
1) The main character talks about how the tea has so many "bits" in it that it's almost indistinguishable from soup.

2) The mother tells the father she can't have sex with him (this is conveyed in a more subtle and less explicit way, though) because she is pregnant with their next child.

Maybe something on this list?

https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/...

I immediately thought of A Monk Swimming (by Malachy McCourt, Frank McCourt's brother) but that wasn't published until 1998.

Thanks, Sam, but it wasn't on that list.

Further info: May have a character named Finn in it.

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Facts of Life by Maureen Howard?

You can put this in the "Solved" or "Possibly Solved" folder if you like. I'm fairly sure I'm conflating at least 2 books, possibly three, and it was an English Family, not an Irish one. At least one book that I was conflating together was "Mister God, this is Anna" by Fynn!