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Looking forward to Left Neglected!


In general I dislike the genre of writing where a successful happy career woman has to be shown-- by trauma if necessary!-- that the only true happiness is staying home with family. I find it very difficult to imagine if Left Neglected were about the husband instead of the wife the ending would have been the same. I'm definitely not saying that no woman is happy staying home-- obviously plenty of women are, and I'm also not saying that's not a valuable thing to be doing-- but it was pretty clear Sarah enjoyed her work and was professionally ambitious. It seems condescending to suggest that she just didn't know her own mind and needed the wake up call.
I also was a little grossed out when Sarah's physical therapist friend was jollying her along that it could be so much worse. In nearly every situation something can be worse, that doesn't mean your can't acknowledge that a shitty situation sucks. It's just a tremendous burden on patients if they have to focus on getting better and making sure they have the happy patient attitude so that their caregivers can feel better.

I love her writing style, very easy to read and the topic was really interesting.
Gnatalby~I always love book clubs so that i can see what other people come away with when reading the same thing. I had a totally different perspective on this story...to me it was more a story of resilience...of realizing your own limitations and working within them to continue to be a productive member of society. She didn't just hang it up after a terrible trauma but continued to work and push herself with her therapy, the way she had before with her high powered job. I felt that Sarah just realized that she was given a situation and needed to make the best of it, and she did that by working at the ski lodge. I saw it as a story of a person with a disability not allowing that disability to define them .
I do agree with the fact that she should have been allowed her pity party for a while though....I think anyone would need that as part of the process of accepting their "new self".

I did find it slightly harder to understand this character's plight, compared to Still Alice. But I think that's just the nature of the medical condition. It's harder to convey in words what it would be like to completely lose the left side of your entire world, than it is to convey the progression of Alzheimer's. In that book, I think the author did an excellent job showing at first the subtle confusion, and then changing the narration as the story (and the condition) progressed. Left Neglected, while still an enjoyable read, and still a very interesting story, just didn't immerse me in quite the same way. But I honestly don't know that she could have done anything differently to help with that.
For anyone who enjoyed Left Neglected but hasn't yet read Still Alice, I highly recommend it.


Again, the parallels with my own life fascinate me. Back in December I was in a car accident and my Beetle was totaled and I too have issues with my mother. My injuries were not life threatening or life altering and my relationship with my mother is not as strained but I so get her resentment and can’t blame her.
I broke down when Charlie was helping her with her homework because I know my kiddo would do the same. I can’t wait to get back to it.