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“The experiences in the first years of life are disproportionately powerful in shaping how your brain organizes.”
― What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
― What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
“What I’ve learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.”
― What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
― What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
“Verbal abuse is the use of language to shame, scare or hurt another. Dysfunctional parents routinely use name-calling, sarcasm, and destructive criticism to overpower and control their children. Verbal abuse is as commonplace in the American family as homework and table manners. It is modeled as socially acceptable in almost every sitcom on television.”
― The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of Blame
― The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness Out of Blame
“Man cannot remake himself without suffering. For he is both the marble and the sculptor. – Alexis Canell”
― The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
― The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
“It’s interesting-most people think about therapy as something that involves going in and undoing what’s happened. But whatever your past experiences created in your brain, the associations exist and you can’t just delete them. You can’t get rid of the past.
Therapy is more about building new associations, making new, healthier default pathways. It is almost as if therapy is taking your two-lane dirt road and building a four-lane freeway alongside it. The old road stays, but you don’t use it much anymore. Therapy is building a better alternative, a new default. And that takes repetition, and time, honestly, it works best if someone understands how the brain changes. This is why understanding how trauma impacts our health is essential for everyone.”
― What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Therapy is more about building new associations, making new, healthier default pathways. It is almost as if therapy is taking your two-lane dirt road and building a four-lane freeway alongside it. The old road stays, but you don’t use it much anymore. Therapy is building a better alternative, a new default. And that takes repetition, and time, honestly, it works best if someone understands how the brain changes. This is why understanding how trauma impacts our health is essential for everyone.”
― What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Salsabila’s 2024 Year in Books
Take a look at Salsabila’s Year in Books, including some fun facts about their reading.
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143 friends
1 book
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52 friends
1 book
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82 friends
3 books
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249 friends
1 book
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59 friends
1 book
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71 friends
0 books
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190 friends
1 book
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148 friends
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