guys don’t like to be pegged on bad behavior. They like you to overlook it, or coax them round to something better from the side, not with the head-on relationship jabber.


“Hate can be helpful to certain causes. It unites a group quickly, it gives a person identity—even if it is a negative one—and, most of all, it takes away doubt and all free-floating anxiety. It gives us a place to stand that feels superior and in control. Hate settles the dust and ambiguity that none of us like. Hate is much more common, and more immediately effective, than love. Hate, as we will sadly see below, makes the world go ’round.”
― The Wisdom Pattern: Order, Disorder, Reorder
― The Wisdom Pattern: Order, Disorder, Reorder
“In my experience, teaching is about sensitivity and adaptation.”
― The Hidden Lives of Learners
― The Hidden Lives of Learners

“Imagine if your office and your home were in the same building.”
― The Art of Simple Living: 100 Daily Practices from a Zen Buddhist Monk for a Lifetime of Calm and Joy
― The Art of Simple Living: 100 Daily Practices from a Zen Buddhist Monk for a Lifetime of Calm and Joy

“There is no cure for birth and death save to enjoy the interval.”
― The Moon by Night
― The Moon by Night
“It’s critical to remember that by the time teens are telling us that they feel anxious or angry or sad or any other emotion they choose to put into words, they’re already using an effective strategy for helping themselves cope with it. As a psychologist, I know this through and through. As a parent, though, I often forget it.”
― The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents
― The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents

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