Odille Rault's Blog - Posts Tagged "emotions"
Walking Your Emotions...
Being human, most of us spend most of our lives in a "reactive" state emotionally. Something happens, and we feel an emotional response to it. What we're not naturally aware of is the fact that results follow our emotions... not the other way around.
It's like holding a dog's leash, and following the dog.... which is fine of course, if the dog is going where you want to go. But, if the dog is walking into muddy puddles, and you think you have no choice but to follow him, you're not going to enjoy the walk ;)
However, if you take the lead, you can lead the dog around the puddles, and the dog will follow you! :) Following the dog into the puddles is like responding emotionally to "what is". In other words, "Someone said something mean, and now I'm hurt" - the dog walked into the puddle and I followed.
Taking the lead with the leash, is like saying: "The dog walked into the puddle, but I don't want to be in a puddle, so I'll ignore the tug on the leash, and I'll walk the other way - around the puddle - and I know the dog will follow (he has no choice, he's attached to the leash ;) )" In other words: "I know that person said something mean, but I don't want to feel like that, so I will choose to ignore it and be happy in myself, and I know that my life experience will follow - it has no choice, it's attached to my emotions! ;)"
It's like holding a dog's leash, and following the dog.... which is fine of course, if the dog is going where you want to go. But, if the dog is walking into muddy puddles, and you think you have no choice but to follow him, you're not going to enjoy the walk ;)
However, if you take the lead, you can lead the dog around the puddles, and the dog will follow you! :) Following the dog into the puddles is like responding emotionally to "what is". In other words, "Someone said something mean, and now I'm hurt" - the dog walked into the puddle and I followed.
Taking the lead with the leash, is like saying: "The dog walked into the puddle, but I don't want to be in a puddle, so I'll ignore the tug on the leash, and I'll walk the other way - around the puddle - and I know the dog will follow (he has no choice, he's attached to the leash ;) )" In other words: "I know that person said something mean, but I don't want to feel like that, so I will choose to ignore it and be happy in myself, and I know that my life experience will follow - it has no choice, it's attached to my emotions! ;)"
