Odille Rault's Blog

"Imagine a horse that has been ill-treated. And the person who has just bought it wants it to pull a cart. So he hitches the half-starved, beaten and bleeding animal to the cart, and when the horse can’t even move because it is so damaged, the new owner shouts at it, and beats it some more.... is that horse EVER likely to be able to pull that cart?

"Now, if the new owner takes that horse to a vet, and then nurses it back to health with love, nourishment, compassion and caring. If he speaks to the horse with gentle and encouraging words, if he tells the horse it’s going to be okay, it’s going to get better; If he shows the horse he loves it; If he lets it rest in a comfortable stable where it’s warm and safe; And if he allows it, as it gets better, to graze in the sunshine, and on the days it feels worse, if he gives it extra caring and love.... that horse will heal and get stronger, and it will then be ABLE and Willing to pull that cart!

"You are that horse. The previous owners who ill-treated you are those who raised you. The NEW owner is YOU! It’s up to YOU now to put down the whip, unhitch yourself from that cart, and give yourself some nursing back to health with Love and Compassion and Caring - or, just like the horse, you won’t be ABLE to heal. You can’t heal while you’re continuing to beat yourself emotionally, where your previous “carers” left off.

One of the first steps you can take in putting down the whip and unhitching yourself from the cart, and starting to help yourself heal, is to start doing things you love. Even if you start with just one. And at first it may feel odd. Even the horse would find it odd to be suddenly treated with kindness instead of being shouted at and beaten. He may well even react with suspicion. But with coaxing and reassurance from his new owner, he will slowly begin to accept and respond to the new experience of kindness.

Many of us find it difficult at first, to focus on doing what feels good, and it can be a challenge to show ourselves compassion and kindness. Do something Delicious for yourself today! :)"

- Excerpted from BEYOND THE MAGIC PILL

This morning I had a request for advice from someone who has a very difficult decision to make, and after replying to her, I realised others may find this process useful as well - it works for any difficult decision...

"I understand your dilemma - it's tricky to know whether to take the chance or not, and what will happen if you do. Here's what I suggest:

1. Decide not to decide for the moment.
Decide to wait a couple of days before making a decision.

2. Make sure you're treating yourself well - remember, this is the control panel for everything in your life. How you treat you (including what you say and think to yourself and about yourself) is setting the controls for what you experience from the world around you.

3. Do the unconditional love exercises - filling yourself with unconditional love first, then sending it to him and the whole situation. Send it to all possible scenarios - whether you go or whether you don't, and whatever the results may be - send love to all possibilities regardless.

4. After two days of this, decide you are going. Don't do anything about it yet, just "wear" the decision for one day. Decide you're going, and during the day take notice of how you're feeling.

5. The next day, decide you're not going. Again, for one day "wear" the decision that you're not going... and take notice during the day of how you're feeeeling.

You will know by then what the best thing is to do. :) This process will bring your instinctual knowledge to the surface. You know subconsciously what would be best to do, and this process will bring it to conscious awareness.

And, as always, follow what feels good in the moment - it will lead you to what you want even when it doesn't seem to have anything to do with it. ;)

Hope this helps.
Love and Light and Magic xxx"

I'm sure you're familiar with the belief that if you mention something bad hasn't happened, the act of saying it out loud will "make it happen" - whether you have this belief yourself or you know someone who does. It's a common belief. I came across it again a few weeks ago, and it fascinated me - not least because I remember holding this belief myself years ago.

One Saturday last month, I was at a massive barbeque (hundreds of people). Friday (day and night) had been non-stop rain. It was relentless, and seemed set in for the following few days. On the Friday night I was out with friends, and when I got home in the early hours of Saturday morning, it was still poooouring with rain, and the sky was heavy with black clouds. There was no sign of the rain stopping any time soon.

When I woke up later Saturday morning, the sky was completely clear, there was sunshine and not a single cloud in sight! An exquisite day. While at the barbeque that afternoon, I commented to a group of people I was chatting with, how wonderful it was that the rain that seemed set in, just hours before, had cleared so beautifully in time for the barbeque. "Isn't it fabulous! Considering the rain yester...." "SHHHHHH! Don't say it!!" a couple of them said at once. "You'll jinx it!"

Heh heh.. I have to say I found it very funny - having held that belief myself in the past, and knowing what I know now, it's a curious and amusing belief. However, again, because I've held that belief myself, I know how real it is to those who believe it. So, of course I respected their request and didn't say anymore about it. But it did get me thinking about the belief itself.

There are those who believe this, and are happy in their belief. And that's of course, fine. But there are also people who currently hold this belief who would prefer it wasn't true... and who don't yet realize that it doesn't have to be! :)

This goes for all beliefs that don't make you happy. Here's how to change them:

* Whatever you believe is true. For you.

* To change a belief often takes a leap of faith and a bit of a time lag.

* When you believe something that doesn't feel good just because of the evidence in your experience, you are sitting in the back seat of your car, looking at the scenery ("evidence") as the car drives along on automatic.

In order to gain control and live the results of a different belief, you need to get into the driver's seat. And in order to do this, you need to take control of your belief before you see the results.

In other words, if you currently hold the belief that whenever something good happens, something bad will happen to "balance" it (this is quite a common one), you need to decide first, that this is no longer true for you. It may seem to be true and you may have seen plenty of evidence of it (that's you sitting in the back seat, looking at the scenery ;) ) but you have the power to change that. You've only seen evidence of it because that's what you've been believing. You've only seen that scenery because that's the road you've been driving on. So you decide that it's no longer true (you climb over, into the driver's seat and grab that steering wheel!).

* Now, when you change such a belief, because of the time lag, you'll still see some "evidence" - the trick is to ignore that evidence. Refuse to see it as "evidence" - refuse to see it at all. For example: let's say one of the people I was speaking with at that barbeque, who believe in "jinxing" decided they no longer wanted to live that belief. Let's say his name is Robert. Robert decides to change that belief. So, he climbs into the driver's seat of his beliefmobile and decides that the whole "jinxing" thing is nonsense. A part of him still believes it of course, because he's believed it for so long, he's programmed that way, but he is now consciously taking control.

So, Robert says, out loud "Isn't it amazing it's not raining today - just in time for the barbeque - considering what it was like yesterday?" And let's say, later that day, it starts raining again. Robert now has a choice: He can jump back into the back seat and choose to reinforce that belief in "jinxing" ... or he can choose to believe there's no such thing as "jinxing" and ignore the fact that it rained. Sure there will be a part of him that's saying "You see!! Look what you've done!!" - and probably a few of his friends saying the same thing ;) But he can choose to laugh it off. He can choose to not feed that belief. And he can deliberately do the same thing next time - say out loud "Wow, isn't it great that..." and if he stays in the driver's seat and refuses to entertain the idea of jinxing and refuses to feed that belief... he will find that eventually, there is no longer the evidence to support that belief. :)

It's all about climbing out of the back seat and into the driver's seat. Sometimes we don't realize that we can do this. And sometimes, when we do get into the driver's seat, but we're still seeing the same scenery - it didn't instantly change - we think the car is still on automatic and we don't have control after all... when the truth is, we're still seeing the same scenery because the car is still currently on that road. We don't account for the time it takes between our taking the wheel, changing direction and reaching a new road... and then seeing the new scenery. ;)

YOU DECIDE what is true by deciding what to believe. And whatever you choose to believe is what will be true. For you. So you can choose to believe what feels good - and the "evidence" will eventually start to appear, to fit in with your belief. :)

Love and Light and Magic xxx

The reality a person is experiencing right now is like looking at a star in the night sky. When you look at a star, what you're seeing is what that star looked like many, many years ago (just how many depends on how far the star is from earth). If a star is 1 million light years away, it means the light from that star has taken 1 million years to reach us. So we're looking at the light from a million years ago. The star may well no longer be there - it may have burnt out ages ago, but we'll only know a million years from when it happened ;)

The sun is about 8 light minutes away - which means, when we look at the sun now, we're seeing what it looked like 8 minutes ago. If the sun suddenly exploded, we wouln't know about it for 8 minutes - we'd only see it 8 minutes after it happened.

In the same way, what you're experiencing now in your life was created in the past, and what you're creating in this moment, you'll see the effects of in the future. And just as the distance a star is from the earth determines the length of the time delay - how long ago we're looking at - in the same way there is a variation in time delay of what you create in your life, dependent on a combination of many factors. Sometimes you'll see the result of your creations almost immediately, mostly the results of what you create will take between a few days and a few months to reach you.

Right now, you're looking at your past creations. And right now, how you feel is creating your future.

Choice. Every moment of human consciousness is a choice. Even though sometimes it doesn't seem that way. In any situation, under any circumstances, at the very least, a person has a choice of thoughts and focus. Great freedom and empowerment comes from not only recognizing our own power of choice, but in recognizing and respecting the power of choice in others.

Yesterday I was speaking with someone (I'll call her Janet) who was very worried about her daughter (I'll call her Sue). Janet could see the stress and unhappiness her daughter was experiencing as a result of certain situations in her life. Janet was desperately trying to point out to Sue, the changes she needed to make in order to solve these issues, however, Sue refused to listen. She argued each point, and insisted there was no other option. On some of the points, Sue wouldn't even let Janet finish explaining.

Janet was beside herself. She couldn't understand why her daughter wouldn't listen to her. She couldn't understand how Sue couldn't see the solutions she was pointing out, and she couldn't stop herself from pushing Sue to do something about her situation. Of course, Janet's state was not helping, in fact it was adding to the stress and turmoil. The result was, not only was Sue stressed and unhappy in her situation, but now, so was Janet - and there was anger and turmoil between them.

I spoke to Janet about Choice. The magical power of choice. The great thing about becoming aware of the power of choice is that its power goes beyond the action of making a choice:

* Because each of us ALWAYS has a choice - even if it's just choosing what to think or what to turn our focus to - that is empowering to us of course - we can also recognize and respect that others have the same power. And THAT is empowering to us as well. Right in this moment, you are choosing to read this. You have a choice in how to feel about it, you have a choice in what to do next. Every single moment of human consciousness is a choice.

* We can't make others do anything. Each person is calling the shots in their own life experience (whether they're aware of it or not). We can contribute, we can influence, we can affect... but only as far as the other person allows. They have the final say, they have the ultimate power within their own experience.

* There is great freedom and power in recognizing and respecting another's choices.

Janet offered the information and help, but if Sue chooses not to take it, Janet fighting that only causes more stress and conflict for both of them - AND, Janet cannot control what Sue does, so it's a losing battle. However, if Janet chooses to accept and respect Sue's choices, even though she believes they are not good choices, at the very least, there will be less stress (for both of them) and Janet will be surprised at the results of that decision in her own life.

Here's an analogy:

If someone is in a deep pit, and they're cold, and they want to get out, and you throw a rope to them, and encourage them to climb it... if they won't climb the rope, here are a few of the possibilities:

1. You spend time trying to talk them into it. This is fine, but if they won't climb it, they won't climb it. And if they make the choice not to climb it, no matter how much they complain about being in the pit, no amount of talking will *make* them climb the rope to get out. The result of this is: you waste your time, and you annoy them. ;)

2. You can get into the pit with them and try and convince them from there, to climb the rope. This means you're both unhappy and stressed in the pit..and they're still not climbing the rope.

3. You can accept and respect their choice to not climb the rope. You've done what you can to the extent of the power you have in their experience - you've offered the rope - and now they definitely have a choice - to use it or to not use it. The power is theirs. Any reasons they come up with for not climbing it (and it may even be that they are choosing to not believe it's there) is still a choice on their part. This way, you can feel sympathy for them being in the pit and being unhappy, but you can ALLOW them to be in that state because you know it is their choice - and they have a right to that choice. So you can focus on making choices in your own experience that feel good.

If someone watches a scary movie, and they're ... well, scared ;) ... you can suggest they stop watching, but if they continue to watch it even though they're scared and even though they're complaining about being scared, you have to accept the fact that they are choosing to be scared (strange as some of us may find that :D). There are many situations in life where people complain about something but choose not to change it.

Test this. The next time you feel compelled to make someone do something that will help them, try just letting them know of the options, and then accepting and respecting (respecting is a very important part of this) their choice. Even if it's not the choice you would make, respect their right to choose. Then let go, focus on your own choices - making those that feel good - and see what happens. ;) Just try it. You'll surprise yourself!

Each person is the ONLY one in charge of their experience. Whether they're consciously aware of it or not. And being unaware of it is also a choice. ;) If you don't think that being unaware of it is a choice, point it out to them, and then allow them to believe or not. Our beliefs are choices too.

Once you start becoming aware in the moment, that each moment is a choice, you can start making the choices that feel good (including allowing and respecting the choices of others). And that will change your life completely. ;)

Here are the two steps to getting what you want:
1. Love yourself
2. Follow what feels good in the moment.

That's it. Because the outside is a reflection of inside, you will attract people and situations that reflect your beliefs about yourself. And following what feels good is your map to what you want.

Here's an example of how the second step works:
Jenny wants to meet the man of her dreams. She has already ticked off the first step - she knows she loves herself, and she treats herself the way she'd like to be treated by others. Now, she's going to follow the second step - she's decided to follow the treasure hunt trail to what she wants by following what feels good in the moment, even when it seems to have nothing to do with finding the man of her dreams.

One Saturday night, Jenny gets a call from her best friend, Sarah. Sarah wants Jenny to go on a night out with her, to a new club. Jenny doesn't really feel like going out, she'd been looking forward to curling up with a book she's enjoying reading. Sarah tells her she'll never meet the man of her dreams staying at home. She should get out and meet people - he could be right there, at this new club tonight! Jenny thinks about this, and sees the logic, but she still doesn't feeeel like going. And if she compares going to the club and staying home reading the book... the idea of staying home feeeeels better - it feels good. If she weren't following step 2, she'd probably be swayed by Sarah's logic, and she'd go to the club even though it feels better to stay home. But she's decided to follow what feels good in the moment, so she stays home.


Jenny curls up with her new book, it feels great. After a while she feels like a hot chocolate, so she goes through to the kitchen to make one. While she's waiting for the kettle to boil, she notices the TV guide open on the counter. She glances at it, and sees that her favourite comedy show is on in a few minutes. She realises it would be great to see it - she loves that show... but she really should finish that book - it's due back at the library on Monday. But the idea of watching the TV show feeeeels better than reading the book in that moment... so she follows what feels good, and watches the TV show while she drinks her hot chocolate.


This episode of the show is set in a ballet school - Jenny used to do ballet, but gave it up ... watching this reminds her of how much she loves ballet. It would feel really good to do it again. So she decides to follow what feels good, and the next day she finds a ballet school in her area. When she mentions this to Sarah, Sarah points out that she's never going to meet the man of her dreams at ballet school. Jenny points out that she's not looking for her man, she's being led to him by following what feels good in the moment. The treasure hunt trail.


So, Jenny has her first class on Tuesday night. After her class, on the way home, she stops for gas. There's a coffee bar next to the gas station, and she really feels like a coffee. She walks into the coffee bar, and there's a long line of people to be served. She thinks she should go, but she really feels like a coffee - the idea of sitting down with a coffee, even though she has to wait, feels better than leaving. So, she waits in the line. A man arrives and stands behind her in the line. He makes a witty comment about how long the wait is, she turns round and responds.... while they're waiting in the line, they chat. He tells her that he works nearby. They have coffee together.... and they switch numbers.... and eventually Jenny discovers that this is the man of her dreams.

Every decision Jenny made was based on what felt good - regardless of whether it was logically going to lead her to what she wanted.

If she hadn't done that, if she'd gone to the club with Sarah, she may or may not have met someone. But it wouldn't have been this guy. And had she not ended up at the ballet school, she wouldn't have happened to be at that coffee shop at that time. Now, she may well have still met this guy - in another way at another time, but it would have taken longer. Although it seemed a complex route, it was in fact the shortest, easiest route to meeting him... and of course the bonus is, she was feeling good and doing what she enjoyed along the way! :)

There are infinite possibilities and variations on this of course, but if you're following what feels good in the moment, you're always on track. And this is the way it works for everything you want. You can't see the road ahead, so instead of blindly looking for what you want, allow yourself to be led to it. Follow what feels good in the moment. That's your navigation system. ;)


Hope this helps.
Love and Light and Magic xxx

It sounds like a paradox, but there's an explanation and a way of doing this - and it's a powerful tool for getting out of the darkness. ;)

I wrote the following as a reply to someone earlier today, who wanted to know what I meant when I advised "When you can't feeeel love, love that! Love the fact that you can't feel it" And of course, it does sound absurd, so I thought others may benefit from the explanation....

When you start out, love is an emotion. It's something you feel when you look at or think of something - or someone - you love. It's a reaction to something or someone. I think of _________ and I feel love.

The exercises in the Superpower chapter of "Beyond the Magic Pill" are designed to develop the ability to use love as a power - which means using it actively, rather than feeling it reactively. Those exercises help develop the ability to feel love on demand - without needing to see or think of specific things. Once you master that, you can then use love as a tool, aiming it at things you want to change.

So, in the beginning, looking at something you love and feeling love for it is only a reference - it's only to take note of the feeeeeling you're aiming for. Then it becomes intellectual - a mental thing. The exercises require you to use thinking in order to get the feeling - to use thinking as the catalyst instead of a thing or person you love.

When I say love the fact that you can't love - I mean use that intellectual process. In other words: if you can't feel love right now, make that okay by deciding it's okay. Use the conscious mind to decide that it's okay to not be able to feel love, and use the conscious mind to decide that you love yourself anyway. Even though you don't feel it.

The point is: if you're not able to feel it, you're not able to feel it, and any judgement, criticism or any other negative view of the fact that you can't feel it is only going to add more darkness to the darkness.

Although the aim and the power is in feeeeeling love, loving intellectually (in other words deciding you love yourself anyway even without the feeling) is still infinitely better than those negative emotions - because whatever you're feeeeeling is what you're creating more of; and if you're feeeeeling negative emotions, and you use your thinking (I love myself anyway - I love that I can't feel love) to make the situation "ok" at least in your head... you're going to reduce those negative feelings. And the feeeeeling of love will come back later. Maybe tomorrow, or in a couple of days even. But whatever it is, whenever it is, deciding to love it intellectually at least, is always better than feeling the negative alternatives.

Think of yourself for a moment as a room. And not being able to feel love is darkness. And feeling love is light. The room is currently full of darkness, and you can't find the light switch. You feel along the walls, but you can't feel the switch. If you were to start feeling despondent, or frustrated or angry - or even just critical of the fact that you can't find the switch, it's not going to help you find it - all you're doing is stumbling around in the dark, feeling ... dark. In your pocket you have a tiny penlight torch. But you think: "It's not strong enough, it's only a penlight, it's not going to light up the room." ... But, even though it's only a tiny pin-spot of light, it's still better than being in complete darkness - AND.... while you're walking around with that tiny pinspot of light, you're more likely to find the light switch than if you were to keep groping around feeling whatever negative feelings you were feeling before.

The penlight is your thought. Your intellectual decision that you love yourself, even without the feeling. Now, yes, it's never going to light up the room (you need the feeling for that), but it's better than staggering around in the dark. ;)

Hope this makes sense and helps.
Love and Light and Magic xxx

Being human, most of us spend most of our lives in a "reactive" state emotionally. Something happens, and we feel an emotional response to it. What we're not naturally aware of is the fact that results follow our emotions... not the other way around.

It's like holding a dog's leash, and following the dog.... which is fine of course, if the dog is going where you want to go. But, if the dog is walking into muddy puddles, and you think you have no choice but to follow him, you're not going to enjoy the walk ;)

However, if you take the lead, you can lead the dog around the puddles, and the dog will follow you! :) Following the dog into the puddles is like responding emotionally to "what is". In other words, "Someone said something mean, and now I'm hurt" - the dog walked into the puddle and I followed.

Taking the lead with the leash, is like saying: "The dog walked into the puddle, but I don't want to be in a puddle, so I'll ignore the tug on the leash, and I'll walk the other way - around the puddle - and I know the dog will follow (he has no choice, he's attached to the leash ;) )" In other words: "I know that person said something mean, but I don't want to feel like that, so I will choose to ignore it and be happy in myself, and I know that my life experience will follow - it has no choice, it's attached to my emotions! ;)"

This may seem like nothing at first, but keep reading - there is more to it than you might expect.... :)

The following is a way to not only address fear in the moment, it's also a tool for reprogramming the pattern of automatic fear...

Bearing in mind we create and attract everything in our lives, spend some time noticing every good thing you've created and attracted for yourself (bear with me - there's more to it...) For example, the fact that it's not raining when you need to go out; sunshine; a traffic light that turns green as you get to it; the smile from a stranger or a store clerk; getting somewhere on time; catching your train or bus; a butterfly you happen to see; the tv program you like; a convenient parking space; finding something you were looking for; getting a seat on the bus; hearing a song you like on the radio; seeing a cute animal or child; something that makes you laugh.... and the list goes on. Every single one of those things you notice - recognise that YOU created that for YOU! :) That's how much the bigger part of you loves you! (Or, depending on your belief - that's how much God or the Universe loves you)

As for the "bad" stuff - all of that is only a result of blocking off the good stuff! What you focus on, you feed. When you're focused on the fact that you missed your train, and not on the fact that it's not raining, you're blocking more of the good, and feeding the "bad" - creating more of missed trains and less of not raining. ;)

And very often the things you think are bad will turn out to be good if you remind yourself, you cannot create bad for yourself, even though it might look like bad in the moment.

Here's an excerpt from "Beyond the Magic Pill" that might help along these lines:

"The following analogy stands for all of the things you’re looking at right now, that appear to be “bad” - lack of money, judgment from others, confrontations, things that appear to be “going wrong” and all other “monsters”.

I’m sure you’ve had times when, lying in bed, in the dark, you’ve seen a shape that you could swear was something - a person, a monster, a.... whatever... but it’s not. It turns out to be a robe hanging on the door, or a lamp - even though, before you switched on the light, you couldn’t think of anything “normal” it could be.

That’s what worries are now. Now that you know you love yourself, although you still “see” a monster, it WILL turn out to be just a robe on the door - or maybe even a person you love - it’s just that they look like a monster in the dark - because you can’t see them properly... and you fear a monster.

As you get closer, and the light increases, you’ll find out that what you thought was something to worry about turns out to be nothing - as you keep reminding yourself that you only create good now. The only thing to fear is fear - because, what you feel is what is creating and attracting. So if you don’t fear, there’s nothing to fear - because you CAN’T create something to fear, without feeling the fear first ;) (There’s a nice little tongue-twister ;) )

And the way to keep from feeling the fear, is to keep reminding yourself: "I love myself, so I now only create and attract situations and people that make me feel good, and that are good for me.” And then look at all the evidence of how much you love yourself - every thing and person that makes you feel good :)

Trust yourself - you love you. You won’t let anything “bad” happen to you - even though it might look that way until the light comes on ;)" - Excerpted from "Beyond the Magic Pill"


I hope this helps. Let me know if you have any queries.

Love and Light and Magic xxx

Sometimes you need to take your focus off what you want, and put it on something that seems to be completely unconnected, in order to get the results you want. A person who has never come across electricity before might try to make a lightbulb light up by focusing on the lightbulb. If he was told that he needs to look away from the lightbulb - turn his back on it even - to press the switch on the wall behind him, it would seem absurd to him. The switch behind him appears to have nothing to do with the lightbulb in front of him. But, if he is willing to try it, and he turns away from the lightbulb and presses the switch... he'll discover that when he looks at the lightbulb again, it will already be lit! He won't have to do anything to the lightbulb itself.

When you're really struggling with something, sometimes, you need to take your focus off the thing you want to change, and focus on feeling good inside you (that's the switch on the wall behind you), and then, you'll discover the changes happen automatically. :)