Amber Cole/Enough Is Enough
Ablaze in the news this a.m the story of Amber Cole. For those unaware. Videos and tweets have gone viral (worldwide/trending). Amber Cole, a 14 year old female was recorded performing oral sex on a male that is believed to be her 17 year old ex boyfriend. This incident occured on school grounds. Because the law clearly states that both of these individuals are minors... yes this means they are still children, it becomes very hard to blame either of them. The fault lay in some degree within their hands but the piece that has been dismissed are the adults involved. Where are these children's parents, where were the teachers? Who's gonna take responsibility for the damaging of a young girls image? We as adults know that image is not the be all to our existence, but it is to that of the immature mind. What now? Will she and her family pack up and relocate to Mars? I hear Winters are divine. But very seriously. Where is the home training that teaches young women to be ladies in public... Where is the sex education that informs teens that sexually transmitted diseases are passed orally as well despite their belief in urban myth? The system as a whole is to blame. From negligent parents, to social media, to guardians and authorities outside of home and across the board. Who will claim the cost and pay for the shame that today belongs to Amber Cole, but perhaps could be the shame of our daughters and sons tomorrow. Someone needs to teach our children morals, values, and proper decision making. Someone... Anyone... Will it be you?
This is the perfect example of a case where negligence has led to the sexual exploitation of a child and I feel strongly that the parents should be brought up against charges and made to pay. Angel Eyes Foundation is on a mission to educate communties and raise awareness about child sexual abuse. This education should begin at home and should grow as our children do. Once upon a time there was a program called 'Good Touch Bad Touch'. To my knowledge this program is no longer available in public schools and if there are some schools that still teach this, does it extend beyond elementary? Does it reach into the middle schools and high schools across the Nation. Is it targeted at those seeking to find out who they are (sexuality plays a major role). A component of Angel Eyes Foundation is the 'Because I'm Worthy' program. This program is for young girls, especially those that may have been singled out by teachers and counselor, perhaps even the concerned parent as high risk for grade failure, promiscuity, suicide, teen pregnancy... Very rare does something of this magnitude (Amber Cole's incident) occur without red flags and warning signs. It's our generations responsibility to save the next, before it's too late.
Angel Eyes Foundation is a non profit organization, a 501 c social advocacy organization. The conceptual phase is still on the drawing board, but by Spring 2012 the plans are to begin introducing neighborhoods, schools, churches, youth programs to this eye opening intervention/prevention program in hopes that it will change if not save a life!
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This is the perfect example of a case where negligence has led to the sexual exploitation of a child and I feel strongly that the parents should be brought up against charges and made to pay. Angel Eyes Foundation is on a mission to educate communties and raise awareness about child sexual abuse. This education should begin at home and should grow as our children do. Once upon a time there was a program called 'Good Touch Bad Touch'. To my knowledge this program is no longer available in public schools and if there are some schools that still teach this, does it extend beyond elementary? Does it reach into the middle schools and high schools across the Nation. Is it targeted at those seeking to find out who they are (sexuality plays a major role). A component of Angel Eyes Foundation is the 'Because I'm Worthy' program. This program is for young girls, especially those that may have been singled out by teachers and counselor, perhaps even the concerned parent as high risk for grade failure, promiscuity, suicide, teen pregnancy... Very rare does something of this magnitude (Amber Cole's incident) occur without red flags and warning signs. It's our generations responsibility to save the next, before it's too late.
Angel Eyes Foundation is a non profit organization, a 501 c social advocacy organization. The conceptual phase is still on the drawing board, but by Spring 2012 the plans are to begin introducing neighborhoods, schools, churches, youth programs to this eye opening intervention/prevention program in hopes that it will change if not save a life!
Support this worthy cause.
Katandra Shanel Jackson © FreedomInk {Author/Publisher/Founder of AEF}
angeleyes501c3@gmail.com
Angel Eyes Foundation
P.O Box 161965
Atlanta GA 30321
http://angeleyesfoundation.blogspot.com/
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Angel-E...
http://twitter.com/#!/aef_forgetmenot
http://www.freedomink365.com/
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Tom wrote: "Nice job, way to put blame on parents. You cannot just put the teachers or the parents to blame. The parents, like many people in this country, are unaware of the sex that takes place on the intern..."Agreed. Thank you for your valued opinion. I'm but one concerned parent/educator hoping that my very small voice can somehow make a difference.
"The fault lay in some degree within their hands but the piece that has been dismissed are the adults involved."
- my thoughts are in agreement with what you are saying about SEXUAL EDUCATION - I remember being taught about sexual education in the 4th , 5th and 6th grade - now that i have children - i dont see or hear anything from their school - same school district - my oh my has times changed - I am not promoting myself to teach my three children about sexual HEALTH- to prevent incidents like #aMbercole won't happen to mine
The act of oral sex is not new at school. I heard of it happening on the football field over 27 years ago. The actors knew right from wrong, that's why they did it in hiding. We can't blame the parents, teachers, or anyone else except for those doing the act. What we can do is to continue informing our children/teens what is proper and what is not while teaching the health issues involved, and the fact that it can ruin one's reputation.
We need more non-profits like yours that cater to the youth and are willing to have tough discussions on issues such as this.
Cristella wrote: "- my thoughts are in agreement with what you are saying about SEXUAL EDUCATION - I remember being taught about sexual education in the 4th , 5th and 6th grade - now that i have children - i dont se..."Thanks Cristella for understanding where i'm coming from as a parent. When you still have very young children (10 and under) you tend to feel more the responsibility if our children are ever in the wrong.
Yvette wrote: "The act of oral sex is not new at school. I heard of it happening on the football field over 27 years ago. The actors knew right from wrong, that's why they did it in hiding. We can't bla..."
Yvette, as the children grow I understand where you too speak from. My teenage son would hold just as much resposiibility in a matter such as this. We have to begin this education at home. It needs to grow and go with our children, this way we as parents can say and honestly feel that we have done to the best of our ability all that we could. Thanks for your insightful comment.
People know right from wrong. And it sucks that the video came out and got put online but no one can be blamed but her and the guy that let the video out. Even though they are minors they are old enough to know better. While sex ed should be taught in school I don't think that lack of sexual education is a problem. I think lack of sexual responsibility and self respect is the issue. I remember being in school and sitting in sex ed listening to girls talk about what or who they were gonna be doing after it was over. At the end of the day you have to think of right and wrong. Teachers and parents can not watch you 24/7.
Azaria Gamble wrote: "People know right from wrong. And it sucks that the video came out and got put online but no one can be blamed but her and the guy that let the video out. Even though they are minors they are old e..."Agreed Azaria. When responsibility and self respect are instilled at that early age of molding, the blame does indeed weigh heaviest on the 'knowing child'. Thank your for your valued comment.
I have a fourteen year old daughter and I would like to think that I have instilled in her enough self respect and morals that she would not even think about doing this. However, as a parent I do know that the best we can do is teach our children right from wrong and hope and pray that they stick to the values that we have taught them. Having said this, my fourteen year old daughter is not mature enough to keep her room clean or even follow simple tasks at home without me constantly reminding her. So, as far as placing the blame on the children, yes they should know better but they do not have the best judgment. My question is where were the parents? Where did this take place?
Sabrina wrote: "I have a fourteen year old daughter and I would like to think that I have instilled in her enough self respect and morals that she would not even think about doing this. However, as a parent I do k..."Exactly Sabrina. From my research and knowledge this happened on school grounds during school hours. There is a lack of responsibility humming around this event. The presence of adults and the presence of instilled morals from home. I am in the ranks with you. My teenager is 14 as well and just as you said, although we do our best and hope that they take better judgement out into the world, they are still young, immature, and irresponsible children. This is the main reason why at this age they still reside in our homes. Thank you for such a great response.
By law I am required to send my child to school or I can be jailed or fined. Therefore, I feel that the school system should be held accountable!!! The government wants to get involved in my parental decision making when it is of best interest to them but when an instance like this happens, where is their accountability??
Michelle wrote: "I'd like to see some proof that the parents are negligent, then maybe I could back some of what you're saying.But, here's the rub. Who the hell are you to determine what or what is not considered..."
Beautiful response. It is just as welcome via the route my opinion took in which I 'feel' those respsonsible adults are more at fault. It is just as welcome via the route which could have been taken had I 'felt' ALL the blame is that of children. Thank you for your experienced, educated, and sound advice. Everything that is brought forth rather it is placed in my palm or thrown at my feet, is taken ever so graciously. Thank you Michelle for what you have just given me.
Wow Kat, you handled that with so much more dignity than I would have. The "who are you to decide what is appropriate conduct....." comment is probably what bothered me. As a parent I do not see where any self respecting adult let alone any parent would think this is appropriate behavior for a 14 yr old CHILD? Also I believe it is MY job as a parent to teach my child about sex and the consequences , not the school systems. In this particular instance we do not know what type of parents these children had. Since this allegedly took place on school property then some blame must be placed on the school system.
Sabrina wrote: "Wow Kat, you handled that with so much more dignity than I would have. The "who are you to decide what is appropriate conduct....." comment is probably what bothered me. As a parent I do not see wh..."Thank you Sabrina ;-)
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And good job on promoting your foundation for this incident.
I agree that children need to be taught sex ed, but where is the funding for that?
It is not the teachers, gaurdians or parents fault, it is the kids who are accountable for their own actions. Perhaps this was after school, or some other time, people cannot be everyone at once.