Nowadays it seems to be very fashionable to promote self-esteem. However, studies have shown that self-esteem can be counter-productive when it aims not only to help us develop self-confidence (which is an excellent thing), but also to fabricate a false self-image.

This has notably been the case in the United-States. The psychologist Roy Baumeister, author of the most complete review of research on self-esteem available today, has found that “It is doubtful whether minimal benefits justify the effort and expense schools, parents, and therapists have invested in the promotion of self-esteem […]. After all these years, I regret to say that I recommend the following: forget self-esteem and concentrate on self-control and self-discipline.”

Research shows that the development of self-control enables children to persevere in making an effort, concentrate on the right direction for a length of time, and do well in school. Teachings based on developing self-esteem have yet to show good results in these objectives. Students with better self-control have better chances to finish school and are at less risk of drinking, taking drugs, or becoming teenage parents.

However, it is important to underscore that “good” and healthy self-esteem is indispensable to leading a happy existence. Having a morbid devaluation of self can lead to deep psychological problems and intense suffering.