Mike Basevic
 
All children are human DVR’s recording every single visual image they’ve seen since birth and continue to see on a daily basis. They capture these images and store them in their subconscious mind and it’s their perception and repetition of those images that develop their personality, their habits and their behavior throughout their life. In short, those images they see and their continued experiences in their life program their sub-conscious mind.

 

And, it’s the subconscious mind that runs about 95% of their life on a daily basis--while we think our children are making conscious decision in their actions-- more accurately, they are being led by that programming of their subconscious mind they have received since birth.

 

In addition to all of that, every ‘personal experience’ they have had throughout their life---both good & bad---both significant and not so significant--also programs their behavior. All of these experiences leave imprints and memories…some of those are good and recalling them bring a sense of happiness and some of those experiences leave emotional scars that sometimes stay for the rest of their lives.

 

All this is happening whether we realize it or not.

 

In addition to our children being human DVRs, we are too. We all are. We are vibrational energy magnets that gather information every second of every hour of every day of our lives. But, it’s those early years of images and experiences that seem to matter most.
Sure, some experiences will shape us or continue to shape us as they happen throughout our lives but, it’s important to realize that we are creating those experiences so being aware of that fact is the key if you want to make any changes.

 

We record images, store them in our subconscious & playback in our life. Our entire lives….record, store, playback…record, store, playback…record, store, playback. The playback is the life experiences we create based on our beliefs, our desires, our likes, our dislikes, our pleasures, our pain and of course---our state of being is a derivative of all that stuff. The state of being is the magnet that attracts it all back to us.

 

I mention this today because I am asked repeatedly by parents why their child has a bad attitude or isn’t motivated to do anything. There is a lot to it but if you want to help you child be happier or create better results, begin by being the example of what you want them to do and be.

 

Don’t bitch and moan about many things like the economy, lack of money or your job then expect them to be excited and happy. Don’t complain about their teacher or coach then expect them to give a great effort in school or sports. Don’t put constant, unrelenting pressure on them to get great grades (or else they feel your wrath) then expect them to happily bring home the A’s. Don’t tell them about all they do wrong and that they aren’t motivated in life then expect them to go out and excitedly achieve their goals.

 

Encourage them, support them, push them to be great while believing in them. Tell them they can be whatever they choose in life then help them find a way to get there. Help them discover those things they enjoy in life and move them towards their passions. Don’t tell them no, tell them that they (and you) will find a way to make their desire a reality. Don’t focus and harp on all those things they do wrong or their personality quirks. Focus on their good qualities only and compliment them often. Don’t belabor them on their mistakes. Teach them to be accountable, to be responsible, to be honest to themselves and others while teaching them that everyone falls down once in a while. Discipline them when necessary but always make sure they know you love them, no matter what.

 

Accept them, support them, encourage them and love them unconditionally and they will return the same to you.

 

Be the example you want your children to be and you will be amazed at what they will accomplish.

 

Coach Mike