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I'm not sure I get your point. To me if you live in relationship where you get spanked for drunk driving or things like that, you cannot stop me from giving it to you once you have done something seriously wrong. After the spanking - and making up - we can talk it over, and if you insist come to another agreement. But you cannot stop the individual spanking once you have earned it. That's the way I see a Consensual Non-Consensual Relationship.
And that proves the point of personal relationship. Yes, the recipient truly does have the power to say "no" and I do understand your point, and in books that is often the case. In real life it varies between couples, however the dynamic. I think the real point is trust. None of this works without it. Each trusting the other will only do what is agreed upon. If I say "no" and my partner knows me well enough, a real "no, you cannot spank me," can be heard over a mere protesting of the spanking itself, not the dynamic. It keeps the control with the dominant partner without disregarding the less dominant partner's needs. So in essence it is a Consensual Non-Con Relationship with attentive participants.
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Oct 11, 2017 09:56PM
I'm not sure I get your point. To me if you live in relationship where you get spanked for drunk driving or things like that, you cannot stop me from giving it to you once you have done something seriously wrong. After the spanking - and making up - we can talk it over, and if you insist come to another agreement. But you cannot stop the individual spanking once you have earned it. That's the way I see a Consensual Non-Consensual Relationship.
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And that proves the point of personal relationship. Yes, the recipient truly does have the power to say "no" and I do understand your point, and in books that is often the case. In real life it varies between couples, however the dynamic. I think the real point is trust. None of this works without it. Each trusting the other will only do what is agreed upon. If I say "no" and my partner knows me well enough, a real "no, you cannot spank me," can be heard over a mere protesting of the spanking itself, not the dynamic. It keeps the control with the dominant partner without disregarding the less dominant partner's needs. So in essence it is a Consensual Non-Con Relationship with attentive participants.
