Shell

“don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”
― A.A. Milne

“Though this list is not exhaustive, it offers a straightforward way for you to begin to put words to what lies below the surface of your life: • Attention—I long for people to like me. I long for your embrace. • Affection—I long to be enjoyed. I long to be delighted in. I long for you to take pleasure in who I am. • Affirmation—I long to know I have what it takes. I long for your blessing. • Acceptance—I long to belong. I long to be desired. • Satisfaction—I long for fullness. I long for well-being. • Significance—I long for impact. I long for meaning. I long to be powerful. • Security—I long to know I will be okay.”
― Michael John Cusick, Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle

“But no matter the medicinal virtues of being a true friend or sustaining a long close relationship with another, the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the equal privilege of being granted the sight of the essence of another, to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone.”
― David Whyte, Consolations - Revised edition: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words

“If you care, you’ll be there. If you don’t, you won’t.”
― Anne Bogel, Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life