Odille Rault's Blog - Posts Tagged "hurt"
When There's Too Much Anger or Hurt...
If you can't get past anger or hurt, trying to forgive or use any healing tool can be like putting a bandage on an infected wound. When there is that much damage, the festering, ugly stuff needs to be cleaned out first, before putting a bandage on the clean wound, and then it can heal.
Here's an exercise that is extremely effective in cleaning out the infection so that the healing can begin:
Find a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. Get yourself a cup of tea or whatever else you'd like, and sit down in front of the computer, or with a pen and (large! ;) ) notepad. Think back to the first time you felt this hurt or anger that is now plaguing your life. You're going to write a letter to the person or people who originally made you feel this way. You're going to write a letter to them, but you won't be giving it to them.
The brilliant thing about this is: The subconscious doesn't know the difference between you writing the letter, and that person receiving it! :) The process of writing the letter is registered by the subconscious as you having said those things to the person themselves.
When you write, make sure you are uncensored! Rant and rave, swear, cuss, USE ALL CAPS and lots of exclamation marks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Make sure you say absolutely everything that comes to you - even stuff that's completely unreasonable or unfairly accusing. The person is never going to see it.
As far as your subconscious is concerned, you've stood up for yourself, and you've had your say.
When you've finished writing the letter, read it back. Keep it to re-read later if you want to. Once you feel you're finished with it, delete it, or tear it up if it's on paper (some people like to burn it ceremoniously).
After you've done this, try and have a sleep if you can - you'll probably feel drained, and the subconscious processes a lot while you're asleep.
Let me know if you have any questions or queries.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
Here's an exercise that is extremely effective in cleaning out the infection so that the healing can begin:
Find a time when you can be alone and undisturbed. Get yourself a cup of tea or whatever else you'd like, and sit down in front of the computer, or with a pen and (large! ;) ) notepad. Think back to the first time you felt this hurt or anger that is now plaguing your life. You're going to write a letter to the person or people who originally made you feel this way. You're going to write a letter to them, but you won't be giving it to them.
The brilliant thing about this is: The subconscious doesn't know the difference between you writing the letter, and that person receiving it! :) The process of writing the letter is registered by the subconscious as you having said those things to the person themselves.
When you write, make sure you are uncensored! Rant and rave, swear, cuss, USE ALL CAPS and lots of exclamation marks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Make sure you say absolutely everything that comes to you - even stuff that's completely unreasonable or unfairly accusing. The person is never going to see it.
As far as your subconscious is concerned, you've stood up for yourself, and you've had your say.
When you've finished writing the letter, read it back. Keep it to re-read later if you want to. Once you feel you're finished with it, delete it, or tear it up if it's on paper (some people like to burn it ceremoniously).
After you've done this, try and have a sleep if you can - you'll probably feel drained, and the subconscious processes a lot while you're asleep.
Let me know if you have any questions or queries.
Love and Light and Magic xxx
