Sometimes you need to take your focus off what you want, and put it on something that seems to be completely unconnected, in order to get the results you want. A person who has never come across electricity before might try to make a lightbulb light up by focusing on the lightbulb. If he was told that he needs to look away from the lightbulb - turn his back on it even - to press the switch on the wall behind him, it would seem absurd to him. The switch behind him appears to have nothing to do with the lightbulb in front of him. But, if he is willing to try it, and he turns away from the lightbulb and presses the switch... he'll discover that when he looks at the lightbulb again, it will already be lit! He won't have to do anything to the lightbulb itself.

When you're really struggling with something, sometimes, you need to take your focus off the thing you want to change, and focus on feeling good inside you (that's the switch on the wall behind you), and then, you'll discover the changes happen automatically. :)