I'm sure you're familiar with the belief that if you mention something bad hasn't happened, the act of saying it out loud will "make it happen" - whether you have this belief yourself or you know someone who does. It's a common belief. I came across it again a few weeks ago, and it fascinated me - not least because I remember holding this belief myself years ago.

One Saturday last month, I was at a massive barbeque (hundreds of people). Friday (day and night) had been non-stop rain. It was relentless, and seemed set in for the following few days. On the Friday night I was out with friends, and when I got home in the early hours of Saturday morning, it was still poooouring with rain, and the sky was heavy with black clouds. There was no sign of the rain stopping any time soon.

When I woke up later Saturday morning, the sky was completely clear, there was sunshine and not a single cloud in sight! An exquisite day. While at the barbeque that afternoon, I commented to a group of people I was chatting with, how wonderful it was that the rain that seemed set in, just hours before, had cleared so beautifully in time for the barbeque. "Isn't it fabulous! Considering the rain yester...." "SHHHHHH! Don't say it!!" a couple of them said at once. "You'll jinx it!"

Heh heh.. I have to say I found it very funny - having held that belief myself in the past, and knowing what I know now, it's a curious and amusing belief. However, again, because I've held that belief myself, I know how real it is to those who believe it. So, of course I respected their request and didn't say anymore about it. But it did get me thinking about the belief itself.

There are those who believe this, and are happy in their belief. And that's of course, fine. But there are also people who currently hold this belief who would prefer it wasn't true... and who don't yet realize that it doesn't have to be! :)

This goes for all beliefs that don't make you happy. Here's how to change them:

* Whatever you believe is true. For you.

* To change a belief often takes a leap of faith and a bit of a time lag.

* When you believe something that doesn't feel good just because of the evidence in your experience, you are sitting in the back seat of your car, looking at the scenery ("evidence") as the car drives along on automatic.

In order to gain control and live the results of a different belief, you need to get into the driver's seat. And in order to do this, you need to take control of your belief before you see the results.

In other words, if you currently hold the belief that whenever something good happens, something bad will happen to "balance" it (this is quite a common one), you need to decide first, that this is no longer true for you. It may seem to be true and you may have seen plenty of evidence of it (that's you sitting in the back seat, looking at the scenery ;) ) but you have the power to change that. You've only seen evidence of it because that's what you've been believing. You've only seen that scenery because that's the road you've been driving on. So you decide that it's no longer true (you climb over, into the driver's seat and grab that steering wheel!).

* Now, when you change such a belief, because of the time lag, you'll still see some "evidence" - the trick is to ignore that evidence. Refuse to see it as "evidence" - refuse to see it at all. For example: let's say one of the people I was speaking with at that barbeque, who believe in "jinxing" decided they no longer wanted to live that belief. Let's say his name is Robert. Robert decides to change that belief. So, he climbs into the driver's seat of his beliefmobile and decides that the whole "jinxing" thing is nonsense. A part of him still believes it of course, because he's believed it for so long, he's programmed that way, but he is now consciously taking control.

So, Robert says, out loud "Isn't it amazing it's not raining today - just in time for the barbeque - considering what it was like yesterday?" And let's say, later that day, it starts raining again. Robert now has a choice: He can jump back into the back seat and choose to reinforce that belief in "jinxing" ... or he can choose to believe there's no such thing as "jinxing" and ignore the fact that it rained. Sure there will be a part of him that's saying "You see!! Look what you've done!!" - and probably a few of his friends saying the same thing ;) But he can choose to laugh it off. He can choose to not feed that belief. And he can deliberately do the same thing next time - say out loud "Wow, isn't it great that..." and if he stays in the driver's seat and refuses to entertain the idea of jinxing and refuses to feed that belief... he will find that eventually, there is no longer the evidence to support that belief. :)

It's all about climbing out of the back seat and into the driver's seat. Sometimes we don't realize that we can do this. And sometimes, when we do get into the driver's seat, but we're still seeing the same scenery - it didn't instantly change - we think the car is still on automatic and we don't have control after all... when the truth is, we're still seeing the same scenery because the car is still currently on that road. We don't account for the time it takes between our taking the wheel, changing direction and reaching a new road... and then seeing the new scenery. ;)

YOU DECIDE what is true by deciding what to believe. And whatever you choose to believe is what will be true. For you. So you can choose to believe what feels good - and the "evidence" will eventually start to appear, to fit in with your belief. :)

Love and Light and Magic xxx