Stephanie Lahart's Blog - Posts Tagged "depression"

Until YOU get enough of what you’re going through, no matter what advice a person gives you, you’ll continue to go through the same thing.

Have you ever known somebody that says, “I’ve had ENOUGH,” BUT, days, weeks, or years later, you see them still putting up with the same crap. That’s because they didn’t really mean it when they said that they’ve had enough. They spoke it out of their mouth, but their heart was still in it. The truth of the matter is, sometimes the person has to go through the fire themselves in order to really learn a lesson.

There’s nothing like getting hurt until you reach a point where it breaks you down. There’s nothing like experiencing disappointment, until it’s looking you straight in the face. There’s nothing like being lied to by somebody you fully trusted, but now you recognize the truth. There’s nothing like helping somebody over and over again, just to be burned in the end.

Have you had enough yet? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? How much more are you willing to put up with? Is this just a waste of your time? You say that you’ve had enough of his/her cheating. But as soon as they sweet talk you, you’re right back in their arms, totally dismissing what they’ve done to you. You say you’re sick and tired of lending money. But as soon as someone shares their sob story with you, you’re at the bank or pulling out your wallet. You say that you’re sick and tired of EVERYTHING, but you keep finding yourself pulled back into your misery.

What is it going to take for you to be good to yourself? It’s one thing to be kind, but it’s another story when you allow people to start taking advantage of you and have you on a roller coaster ride of emotions. You’re up one minute, down the next, and being twisted in every direction. It’s time to put you first! The next time you say that you’ve had enough, mean it and stand on your word without wavering.
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Isn’t it amazing how all of us are born as innocent little children? Babies are beautiful little bundles of joy. As adults, we enjoy watching them grow and learn different things like: learning how to crawl, taking their first steps, holding their bottle for the first time, feeding themselves, and all the other things that bring a big smile to our faces.

As we grow up, things and people help shape and mold us into the people that we become. Sometimes in our lives, we become a victim of something that nobody should ever have to endure or experience.

I’m talking about being violated. Many people have experienced some kind of violation in their lives. It’s a subject that nobody likes to discuss because of the shame. Let’s get one thing straight! Don’t blame yourself for what happened to you. You were taken advantage of by somebody who knew better, and they had no right to do what they did, period!

So many people go through life living with the shame of what happened to them. It’s not fair to you that you have to live life with emotional and mental scars. In some severe cases, people have physical scars depending on what took place. People deal with what happened in many ways. Some choose to suppress it and act as if it never happened because they don’t want to face the fact that something like that happened to them.

Here are some other things that someone may go through: having a tough time in relationships, serious intimacy issues, lack of trust, little-to-no confidence in their self, resentments, anger issues, emotional damage, self-destructive behavior, etc.

You were robbed of your innocence. Some people are open about what happened, but there are still a large percentage of people who never discuss it. Molestation and rape is absolutely NOT your fault.

You don’t have anything to be ashamed of. Remember, YOU were taken advantage of. Don’t allow anybody to make you feel like you caused this or that you brought this on yourself. That’s pure nonsense!

If you haven’t talked about it or dealt with it, please get help. It’s not fair that you have to keep this inside of you and not get it out. If you’re not a huge fan of counseling, talk to somebody that you can confide in and completely trust.

My prayer is to see you get set free. Free from all of the shame, hurt, and pain. You’re not alone. This happens to more people than you think. It’s not right, it’s WRONG, and it has to stop.

If you have kids, make sure that you talk to them, and if they ever come to you, make sure you listen and believe them. Molestation and rape doesn’t just happen with strangers. Many families have ill-minded people that hurt their family members too. Don’t be in denial, be aware.

I pray right now in the name of Jesus, that God will heal your every wound and give you peace.

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