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Fear
Let me first start out by saying that fear will cripple you. It will cause you to lose out on opportunities that are right in front of your face. Fear will cause self-doubt in whatever you’re setting out to do. It will speak to you loudly, saying things like: “You’ll fail. You’re not good enough. What a silly idea, it won’t go anywhere. You’re wasting your time, it’ll never work,” etc.
Fear will cause you to miss out on your purpose in life. And if you’re not careful, fear will steal everything that God intended for you to have. Fear is like a monster in the dark. It comes out to scare you and take control over your mind, body, and soul.
There’s nothing positive about fear, and nothing good will ever come out of it. Erase fear from your vocabulary. Don’t allow fear to take over your thinking. No matter what has taken place in your life as a child, teenager, or adult, you are BIGGER than fear.
Say it, believe it, live it. Transition your mindset to think positively. Of course it will take time, but as with anything, if you keep at it, it will become a habit. Fear has no place in our lives. It robs us of everything that’s meant to be ours.
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
Fear will cause you to miss out on your purpose in life. And if you’re not careful, fear will steal everything that God intended for you to have. Fear is like a monster in the dark. It comes out to scare you and take control over your mind, body, and soul.
There’s nothing positive about fear, and nothing good will ever come out of it. Erase fear from your vocabulary. Don’t allow fear to take over your thinking. No matter what has taken place in your life as a child, teenager, or adult, you are BIGGER than fear.
Say it, believe it, live it. Transition your mindset to think positively. Of course it will take time, but as with anything, if you keep at it, it will become a habit. Fear has no place in our lives. It robs us of everything that’s meant to be ours.
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
Until You Get Enough
Until YOU get enough of what you’re going through, no matter what advice a person gives you, you’ll continue to go through the same thing.
Have you ever known somebody that says, “I’ve had ENOUGH,” BUT, days, weeks, or years later, you see them still putting up with the same crap. That’s because they didn’t really mean it when they said that they’ve had enough. They spoke it out of their mouth, but their heart was still in it. The truth of the matter is, sometimes the person has to go through the fire themselves in order to really learn a lesson.
There’s nothing like getting hurt until you reach a point where it breaks you down. There’s nothing like experiencing disappointment, until it’s looking you straight in the face. There’s nothing like being lied to by somebody you fully trusted, but now you recognize the truth. There’s nothing like helping somebody over and over again, just to be burned in the end.
Have you had enough yet? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? How much more are you willing to put up with? Is this just a waste of your time? You say that you’ve had enough of his/her cheating. But as soon as they sweet talk you, you’re right back in their arms, totally dismissing what they’ve done to you. You say you’re sick and tired of lending money. But as soon as someone shares their sob story with you, you’re at the bank or pulling out your wallet. You say that you’re sick and tired of EVERYTHING, but you keep finding yourself pulled back into your misery.
What is it going to take for you to be good to yourself? It’s one thing to be kind, but it’s another story when you allow people to start taking advantage of you and have you on a roller coaster ride of emotions. You’re up one minute, down the next, and being twisted in every direction. It’s time to put you first! The next time you say that you’ve had enough, mean it and stand on your word without wavering.
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
Have you ever known somebody that says, “I’ve had ENOUGH,” BUT, days, weeks, or years later, you see them still putting up with the same crap. That’s because they didn’t really mean it when they said that they’ve had enough. They spoke it out of their mouth, but their heart was still in it. The truth of the matter is, sometimes the person has to go through the fire themselves in order to really learn a lesson.
There’s nothing like getting hurt until you reach a point where it breaks you down. There’s nothing like experiencing disappointment, until it’s looking you straight in the face. There’s nothing like being lied to by somebody you fully trusted, but now you recognize the truth. There’s nothing like helping somebody over and over again, just to be burned in the end.
Have you had enough yet? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? How much more are you willing to put up with? Is this just a waste of your time? You say that you’ve had enough of his/her cheating. But as soon as they sweet talk you, you’re right back in their arms, totally dismissing what they’ve done to you. You say you’re sick and tired of lending money. But as soon as someone shares their sob story with you, you’re at the bank or pulling out your wallet. You say that you’re sick and tired of EVERYTHING, but you keep finding yourself pulled back into your misery.
What is it going to take for you to be good to yourself? It’s one thing to be kind, but it’s another story when you allow people to start taking advantage of you and have you on a roller coaster ride of emotions. You’re up one minute, down the next, and being twisted in every direction. It’s time to put you first! The next time you say that you’ve had enough, mean it and stand on your word without wavering.
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
Let there be LIGHT
Let there be light in how you treat others. Let there be light in your attitude. Let there be light in your personality. Let there be light in your behavior. Let there be light in your conversations. Let there be light in your thinking. Let there be light in how you carry yourself.
When people come into contact with you, does your light shine? Take a minute to think about it. Are you one of those people that like to start arguments? Are you one of those people that bring down the mood? Are you one of those people who gossip all of the time? Are you one of those people that are always negative and have nothing positive to say? Are you one of those people that others dislike to see coming? Are you one of those people that are self-centered? Are you one of those people that like to start rumors and keep up drama? Are you one of those people that have a bad attitude?
What kind of person are you? That’s a valid question that most people don’t take the time out to think about. If your light isn’t shining or it’s dull, it’s time to make some changes in your life. NOBODY likes to be around people who bring them down. BUT, there’s no need to feel bad if you do some of the things that I’ve pointed out. This is an eye-opener for you and an opportunity for you to make some changes. Change is good, especially if it’s going to better you as a person. I challenge you to really take a look at YOU. What do you see?
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
When people come into contact with you, does your light shine? Take a minute to think about it. Are you one of those people that like to start arguments? Are you one of those people that bring down the mood? Are you one of those people who gossip all of the time? Are you one of those people that are always negative and have nothing positive to say? Are you one of those people that others dislike to see coming? Are you one of those people that are self-centered? Are you one of those people that like to start rumors and keep up drama? Are you one of those people that have a bad attitude?
What kind of person are you? That’s a valid question that most people don’t take the time out to think about. If your light isn’t shining or it’s dull, it’s time to make some changes in your life. NOBODY likes to be around people who bring them down. BUT, there’s no need to feel bad if you do some of the things that I’ve pointed out. This is an eye-opener for you and an opportunity for you to make some changes. Change is good, especially if it’s going to better you as a person. I challenge you to really take a look at YOU. What do you see?
http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Life...
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Relationships That Last - KINGS & Queens
Kings and Queens don’t compete against one another. They support, encourage, and help each other out to the best of their ability. They fully understand that they’re a team. His success is her success and her success is his success.
They build each other up, NEVER tear one another down. They choose their words wisely when they speak. They understand the power of words once spoken.
They love each other for who THEY are. Respecting one another’s uniqueness, flaws in all. They understand that nobody’s perfect.
They are faithful to one another. They wouldn’t dare entertain that kind of foolishness in their relationship. They both know what they have in each other, and no other man or woman could come between them, no matter what! Cheating is total disrespect! That’s not something that they’re willing to play with.
Kings and Queens complement each other very well. They make each other look good. When they step out, people can’t help but to take notice of their blessed union. Their love for one another is genuine and rare. The love that they share is simply beautiful!
The king respects his queen and the queen respects her king. Respect is a big deal! They understand that without it, there is no real relationship.
They are one! He feels her pain and she feels his pain. But together, they fight through it all. Giving up is NOT an option for them. They always rise above because they have each other. Together, they represent strength, courage, and wisdom. Their union is the real deal. Oh yes it is!
Communication is important to the both of them. It keeps their relationship healthy.
Their sex life is great! They don’t believe in withholding their love from one another. They don’t play childish games like that. Romance is NOT lacking in their relationship. No neglecting here! LOVE, LOVE, AND MORE LOVE.
They show their appreciation for one another because they understand the importance of doing so. Everybody wants to feel and know that they are appreciated. Everybody!
Never too busy for one another. They understand that “TIME” is valuable. They both understand that balancing work/life/school is of great importance. You should never be too busy for your loved ones.
Trust! Without it, any relationship is doomed. So with that being said, they are honest with one another, even if it hurts. They understand that lying to one another is just NOT worth it! It’s better to be upfront with each other because lying causes division and unwanted problems.
Neither one of them are selfish to a fault. They are both okay with compromising because they understand that you can’t expect to ALWAYS get your way. That’s just not fair to either one of them.
Kings and queens are NOT perfect by any means. They have their bad days too. And yes, they have disagreements just like everybody else, but they don’t stay mad at each other for long. They fully understand that anger, bitterness, and resentments lead to much greater problems. So they make sure that they communicate the problem once they’re both cooled off.
To have a love like this is unmatchable!
May all of you one day find YOUR king and YOUR queen.
What a BEAUTIFUL kind of love this is! Absolutely BEAUTIFUL!
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
They build each other up, NEVER tear one another down. They choose their words wisely when they speak. They understand the power of words once spoken.
They love each other for who THEY are. Respecting one another’s uniqueness, flaws in all. They understand that nobody’s perfect.
They are faithful to one another. They wouldn’t dare entertain that kind of foolishness in their relationship. They both know what they have in each other, and no other man or woman could come between them, no matter what! Cheating is total disrespect! That’s not something that they’re willing to play with.
Kings and Queens complement each other very well. They make each other look good. When they step out, people can’t help but to take notice of their blessed union. Their love for one another is genuine and rare. The love that they share is simply beautiful!
The king respects his queen and the queen respects her king. Respect is a big deal! They understand that without it, there is no real relationship.
They are one! He feels her pain and she feels his pain. But together, they fight through it all. Giving up is NOT an option for them. They always rise above because they have each other. Together, they represent strength, courage, and wisdom. Their union is the real deal. Oh yes it is!
Communication is important to the both of them. It keeps their relationship healthy.
Their sex life is great! They don’t believe in withholding their love from one another. They don’t play childish games like that. Romance is NOT lacking in their relationship. No neglecting here! LOVE, LOVE, AND MORE LOVE.
They show their appreciation for one another because they understand the importance of doing so. Everybody wants to feel and know that they are appreciated. Everybody!
Never too busy for one another. They understand that “TIME” is valuable. They both understand that balancing work/life/school is of great importance. You should never be too busy for your loved ones.
Trust! Without it, any relationship is doomed. So with that being said, they are honest with one another, even if it hurts. They understand that lying to one another is just NOT worth it! It’s better to be upfront with each other because lying causes division and unwanted problems.
Neither one of them are selfish to a fault. They are both okay with compromising because they understand that you can’t expect to ALWAYS get your way. That’s just not fair to either one of them.
Kings and queens are NOT perfect by any means. They have their bad days too. And yes, they have disagreements just like everybody else, but they don’t stay mad at each other for long. They fully understand that anger, bitterness, and resentments lead to much greater problems. So they make sure that they communicate the problem once they’re both cooled off.
To have a love like this is unmatchable!
May all of you one day find YOUR king and YOUR queen.
What a BEAUTIFUL kind of love this is! Absolutely BEAUTIFUL!
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
A Dedication To All Of The Beautiful Women Out There! YES, You Are Beautiful!
Women, I need you to listen to me closely. Stop allowing men to define your beauty. All of us come in different sizes and shapes. Learn to embrace what YOU were blessed with. Don’t be concerned about what others think of you. What’s most important is how you feel about yourself. Now, if you don’t like the way you look, make changes for YOU, not a man.
What’s sexy to one man may not be sexy to the next man. It’s the same concept when we look at men. All men aren't created equal when it comes to their body frame. Some men have very toned and athletic bodies, some are stocky and short, some are tall and thin, some men are overweight, etc. The point I’m trying to make is this: You can’t live your life trying to appeal to everybody. It’s pointless!
So what if you have a stomach. So what is you’re a full-figured woman. So what if you’re super skinny with no real shape. So what if you’re NOT thick. So what if you don’t have large breast. So what if you don’t have a round apple butt. So what if you have stretch marks. So what if you have cellulite.
REALLY! So what!
Self-love and self-esteem is so VERY important to have. When you love who YOU are, people can’t make you feel less than because you don’t apparently fit their standards in the way that you look.
Beauty is being unique! Beauty is NOT to be defined. Beauty is what you see in yourself.
If a man only sees you for your body, then he’s one small thinking BOY. You may need to think on that for a little bit. A REAL man will see the TOTAL package in you.
You’re beautiful!
You’re unique!
You’re beautifully blessed just how you’re supposed to be!
Believe that!
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
What’s sexy to one man may not be sexy to the next man. It’s the same concept when we look at men. All men aren't created equal when it comes to their body frame. Some men have very toned and athletic bodies, some are stocky and short, some are tall and thin, some men are overweight, etc. The point I’m trying to make is this: You can’t live your life trying to appeal to everybody. It’s pointless!
So what if you have a stomach. So what is you’re a full-figured woman. So what if you’re super skinny with no real shape. So what if you’re NOT thick. So what if you don’t have large breast. So what if you don’t have a round apple butt. So what if you have stretch marks. So what if you have cellulite.
REALLY! So what!
Self-love and self-esteem is so VERY important to have. When you love who YOU are, people can’t make you feel less than because you don’t apparently fit their standards in the way that you look.
Beauty is being unique! Beauty is NOT to be defined. Beauty is what you see in yourself.
If a man only sees you for your body, then he’s one small thinking BOY. You may need to think on that for a little bit. A REAL man will see the TOTAL package in you.
You’re beautiful!
You’re unique!
You’re beautifully blessed just how you’re supposed to be!
Believe that!
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
Good Parenting Is Well Worth It And Rewarding
“It’s so easy and convenient to buy our children gifts, but I encourage and challenge you to give them gifts that TRULY matter! The gift of unconditional love. The gift of encouragement. The gift of support. The gift of friendship. The gift of communication,understanding, and patience. The gift of guidance and support. The gift of quality time. And the gift of loving them for who THEY are. Material things are nice, but NOTHING compares to genuine love! Parenting should be taken seriously.”
– Author Stephanie Lahart
– Author Stephanie Lahart
Marriage, Loneliness, Cheating, and Everyday Life Situations – Could You REALLY Handle the Consequences of Your Choices?
You’re thinking to yourself: “I didn’t sign up for this shit!” Married, but feeling lonely. Married, but thinking about cheating. Married, but dealing with more than your fair share of everyday life situations. In your marriage vows, you promised to love your spouse for better or for worse, but sometimes it’s much easier said than done, right?
All marriages have their challenges, some bigger than others. For some odd reason, when we get married, we think that our lives are going to be this perfect union until reality shows us something different. In the midst of working, going to school, taking care of the kids, trying to please our spouses, and handling all of the responsibilities of home life, things can get extremely overwhelming AND sometimes we feel like we’ve lost all control. Unfortunately, when we experience pressure that we’re not used to, our attitude, behavior, and the way we think can be all over the place. Our emotions tend to get the best of us.
As humans, we can sometimes be selfish without even realizing that we’re doing it. It’s all about OUR wants and OUR needs. But have you ever stopped to think about what your spouse is going through, too? Although you’re married, you have to remember that you’re both individual people. You both have your own personal challenges and struggles. It’s life! Nobody’s exempt from issues.
Like reading a good fiction, romance novel, cheating takes you to a place where you feel fulfilled, even if it’s temporary. For that period of time you feel free! Free from the realities of the real world. That leads me to what I would like to talk about next.
Loneliness and Cheating in Your Relationship
So you’re feeling lonely, huh? I get it! Your spouse isn’t showing you the attention that you desire. Your spouse isn’t spending enough time with you. Your spouse doesn’t make love to you the way that they used to. Your spouse is SO busy that they miss out on the things that are TRULY important to you. Your spouse just doesn’t seem to be interested in you like they used to be. You just don’t feel appreciated, and communication is nonexistent. And when you DO try to talk, it just ends up in a heated argument over the smallest things.
With all of this “stuff” going on in your life, temptation is having its way with you. You’re tempted to do some things that you know aren’t right. But what the hell, right? You’re sick of this crap and you need a break from it all.
Let Me Ask You a Question
Have you even tried to communicate your feelings and thoughts to your spouse? Do they know what and how you’re feeling and/or thinking about? Listen, if you don’t communicate what you’re feeling, it’s not fair to your mate. It’s just not! If you want something from your mate, you have the responsibility to do your part. Open your mouth and speak up! You can’t expect your mate to know what’s going on in that mind of yours if you don’t say anything.
No matter how difficult or painful it may be, you have to talk about it. Communication can save a relationship from going down a road of pain, hurt, regret, anger, and betrayal. If you’re feeling lonely, communicate that to your partner. Set aside some quiet time where there won’t be any distractions. Make sure that you have their full attention, keep eye contact, and ensure that they fully understand the feelings that you’re experiencing. Don’t down play what you’re feeling. Your mate needs to know that you need more of them. Whether it is more time, sex, attention, etc… it needs to be brought to the table.
Seeking Comfort Elsewhere Won’t Solve Anything
Don’t get caught up! Temporary pleasure can turn out to be your worst nightmare. Don’t become a victim simply because you want to feel good for the moment. You may find yourself in a situation that you never saw coming. What you thought was temporary, is now YOUR secret. Irresponsible choices can cost you big time!
Think it Through
Could you REALLY live with yourself if you cheated on your partner?
Would it be worth losing the person that you know you love and care about? Would it be worth possibly losing your family? Would it be worth destroying his/her trust in you? Would it be worth having to start all over again with someone who doesn’t even compare to your current spouse? Would it be worth it to see those tears in his/her eyes? Would it be worth seeing the pain that you’ve caused on his/her face? Would it be worth it to destroy everything that you’ve both built together? Would it be worth it to break their heart over your selfishness and weakness? Would it be worth it to betray the man or woman that you promised to be faithful to? Or furthermore, would you be able to forgive yourself, if you gave your spouse an STD? Always remember this: When you decide to cheat, you’re taking a huge risk. A risk that could turn your life upside down.
Some things just aren’t worth it. Think! Think about what your choices could do to you, your partner, and maybe even your family. I encourage you to be mature enough to make the right choices. The wrong choices can literally ruin your life, and to me, ruining your life over a quick fix is just NOT worth it! Not at all.
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
All marriages have their challenges, some bigger than others. For some odd reason, when we get married, we think that our lives are going to be this perfect union until reality shows us something different. In the midst of working, going to school, taking care of the kids, trying to please our spouses, and handling all of the responsibilities of home life, things can get extremely overwhelming AND sometimes we feel like we’ve lost all control. Unfortunately, when we experience pressure that we’re not used to, our attitude, behavior, and the way we think can be all over the place. Our emotions tend to get the best of us.
As humans, we can sometimes be selfish without even realizing that we’re doing it. It’s all about OUR wants and OUR needs. But have you ever stopped to think about what your spouse is going through, too? Although you’re married, you have to remember that you’re both individual people. You both have your own personal challenges and struggles. It’s life! Nobody’s exempt from issues.
Like reading a good fiction, romance novel, cheating takes you to a place where you feel fulfilled, even if it’s temporary. For that period of time you feel free! Free from the realities of the real world. That leads me to what I would like to talk about next.
Loneliness and Cheating in Your Relationship
So you’re feeling lonely, huh? I get it! Your spouse isn’t showing you the attention that you desire. Your spouse isn’t spending enough time with you. Your spouse doesn’t make love to you the way that they used to. Your spouse is SO busy that they miss out on the things that are TRULY important to you. Your spouse just doesn’t seem to be interested in you like they used to be. You just don’t feel appreciated, and communication is nonexistent. And when you DO try to talk, it just ends up in a heated argument over the smallest things.
With all of this “stuff” going on in your life, temptation is having its way with you. You’re tempted to do some things that you know aren’t right. But what the hell, right? You’re sick of this crap and you need a break from it all.
Let Me Ask You a Question
Have you even tried to communicate your feelings and thoughts to your spouse? Do they know what and how you’re feeling and/or thinking about? Listen, if you don’t communicate what you’re feeling, it’s not fair to your mate. It’s just not! If you want something from your mate, you have the responsibility to do your part. Open your mouth and speak up! You can’t expect your mate to know what’s going on in that mind of yours if you don’t say anything.
No matter how difficult or painful it may be, you have to talk about it. Communication can save a relationship from going down a road of pain, hurt, regret, anger, and betrayal. If you’re feeling lonely, communicate that to your partner. Set aside some quiet time where there won’t be any distractions. Make sure that you have their full attention, keep eye contact, and ensure that they fully understand the feelings that you’re experiencing. Don’t down play what you’re feeling. Your mate needs to know that you need more of them. Whether it is more time, sex, attention, etc… it needs to be brought to the table.
Seeking Comfort Elsewhere Won’t Solve Anything
Don’t get caught up! Temporary pleasure can turn out to be your worst nightmare. Don’t become a victim simply because you want to feel good for the moment. You may find yourself in a situation that you never saw coming. What you thought was temporary, is now YOUR secret. Irresponsible choices can cost you big time!
Think it Through
Could you REALLY live with yourself if you cheated on your partner?
Would it be worth losing the person that you know you love and care about? Would it be worth possibly losing your family? Would it be worth destroying his/her trust in you? Would it be worth having to start all over again with someone who doesn’t even compare to your current spouse? Would it be worth it to see those tears in his/her eyes? Would it be worth seeing the pain that you’ve caused on his/her face? Would it be worth it to destroy everything that you’ve both built together? Would it be worth it to break their heart over your selfishness and weakness? Would it be worth it to betray the man or woman that you promised to be faithful to? Or furthermore, would you be able to forgive yourself, if you gave your spouse an STD? Always remember this: When you decide to cheat, you’re taking a huge risk. A risk that could turn your life upside down.
Some things just aren’t worth it. Think! Think about what your choices could do to you, your partner, and maybe even your family. I encourage you to be mature enough to make the right choices. The wrong choices can literally ruin your life, and to me, ruining your life over a quick fix is just NOT worth it! Not at all.
Written By Author Stephanie Lahart
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