Stephanie Lahart's Blog - Posts Tagged "self"

I dedicate this passage to the disowned. I can only imagine your pain. Someone who you thought loved you pushed you away and no longer wants to have anything to do with you.

How could anyone disown you because you got pregnant at an early age? How could anyone disown you because you married somebody of a different race? How could anyone disown you because you didn’t go to the school or college that they wanted you to? How could anyone disown you because you came out and told them that you were gay or lesbian? How could anyone disown you because you didn’t live up to their expectations? How could anyone disown you because you decided to become a different religion than they are? How could anyone disown you because you decided to get piercing and tattoos on your body? How could anybody disown you because you made a horrible mistake and used drugs?

How could anyone disown you because you didn’t take the route that they wanted you to go? How could anyone disown you because you had a biracial child? How could anyone disown you because your best friend is mixed with another race that they’re not fond of? How could anyone disown you simply because they can’t control you? How could anyone disown you because you decided to tell the truth about all of the bad things that were going on in the family and they didn’t want to believe or accept it? How could anyone disown you because you weren’t “perfect” in their eyes? How could anyone disown you because you decided to tell the truth? How could anyone disown you because you allowed alcohol to take over your life?

Let’s face it! Everybody makes mistakes in their life and they sometimes wish that they could turn back the hands of time, but they can’t. If you say that you love somebody, you can’t make the choice to disown them because YOU have a problem with what they did. I’m sure that if you took a good look at yourself, you’re not “Mr. /Mrs. Perfect” either.

We don’t have a right to disown or stop loving somebody just because we don’t like what they did or said. It’s not that serious. Unconditional love means accepting people for who they are. Showing real love is not by being controlling.

How could any mother or father disown their child? Your children are YOUR seeds. Just what are you saying to your children when you disown them? “I love you, but only if I can control what you are, what you become, what you do, etc.” Shame on you! It’s wrong and there’s nothing you could say that would make it right. How does your own family disown you? Aren’t families supposed to stick together? We should be able to call on our families for support and love. Above all, if nobody else accepts us for who were are, our family should.

To the disowned, don’t feel guilty for what you did or what you said. You are your own person and you did nothing wrong. Nobody in this world is perfect. Not even the person or people who disowned you. Remember that they are the ones with the problem. I know that it may be very difficult dealing with the fact that you were disowned, but know this: You are somebody! You are somebody VERY special! Don’t be ashamed of who you are!
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Let me first start out by saying that fear will cripple you. It will cause you to lose out on opportunities that are right in front of your face. Fear will cause self-doubt in whatever you’re setting out to do. It will speak to you loudly, saying things like: “You’ll fail. You’re not good enough. What a silly idea, it won’t go anywhere. You’re wasting your time, it’ll never work,” etc.

Fear will cause you to miss out on your purpose in life. And if you’re not careful, fear will steal everything that God intended for you to have. Fear is like a monster in the dark. It comes out to scare you and take control over your mind, body, and soul.

There’s nothing positive about fear, and nothing good will ever come out of it. Erase fear from your vocabulary. Don’t allow fear to take over your thinking. No matter what has taken place in your life as a child, teenager, or adult, you are BIGGER than fear.

Say it, believe it, live it. Transition your mindset to think positively. Of course it will take time, but as with anything, if you keep at it, it will become a habit. Fear has no place in our lives. It robs us of everything that’s meant to be ours.
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Let there be light in how you treat others. Let there be light in your attitude. Let there be light in your personality. Let there be light in your behavior. Let there be light in your conversations. Let there be light in your thinking. Let there be light in how you carry yourself.

When people come into contact with you, does your light shine? Take a minute to think about it. Are you one of those people that like to start arguments? Are you one of those people that bring down the mood? Are you one of those people who gossip all of the time? Are you one of those people that are always negative and have nothing positive to say? Are you one of those people that others dislike to see coming? Are you one of those people that are self-centered? Are you one of those people that like to start rumors and keep up drama? Are you one of those people that have a bad attitude?

What kind of person are you? That’s a valid question that most people don’t take the time out to think about. If your light isn’t shining or it’s dull, it’s time to make some changes in your life. NOBODY likes to be around people who bring them down. BUT, there’s no need to feel bad if you do some of the things that I’ve pointed out. This is an eye-opener for you and an opportunity for you to make some changes. Change is good, especially if it’s going to better you as a person. I challenge you to really take a look at YOU. What do you see?
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Open up your heart to receive the love that you deserve.

Let your past mistakes make you stronger and wiser.

Forgive yourself and be at peace.

Love yourself and see the best in yourself!

Respect yourself!

Be good to yourself!

Take care of yourself because YOU are important!

Leave your comfort zone behind.

Get out and see new things.

Experience all that life has to offer for you.

Be spontaneous!

Let down your guards!

Do things that bring happiness to you!

Smile and laugh, laugh and smile.

You’re on your way to being free!

LIVE and don’t just exist.

Make everyday count for something.

Create memories that will live after you’re gone.

Love, love unconditionally.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable, because it’s okay.

Communicate your feelings, don’t hold them in.

Be bold and stand up for what you believe.

Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

Always remember how important you are.

Don’t allow anybody to keep you down.

Stand tall!

Keep your head up!

Never lose confidence in yourself!

We all make mistakes, nobody’s perfect.

Learn, grow, and do better.

Pay attention to life and life will show you many things.

Increase your knowledge and be open to learn.

Never underestimate what you can learn or do.

Give yourself chances and don’t doubt yourself!

To be free is to really live.

Live your life and live it well.

No more regrets!

No more shame!

No more thinking about what you should’ve done!

NO MORE!

LIVE! That’s all. LIVE and be free!

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Look at you. No, I’m serious. Take a good look at yourself.

Now reflect over your life.

You've faced many challenges, set-backs, hurt, disappointments, and loss.

But through it all, YOU’RE still standing. Standing strong in spite of it all.

Stop being so hard on yourself. Sometimes we don’t have control over what happens in our lives.

Although you may have had your fair share of not-so-good days,

Always remember that ANYTHING is possible!

Keep your spirit up, hold your head high, and BELIEVE.

Never stop believing! Never give up on yourself! Never doubt what you’re capable of!

Don’t look at the negatives. FOCUS on all things positive!

I want you to be encouraged today and everyday of your life from this point forward.

Give yourself a chance to do the unknown.

You can do it! I know you can!

May you accomplish great things in your life, and I pray that opportunities will start opening up for you in abundance. That’s my genuine HOPE for you!

Be encouraged! Not only for today, but for the rest of your life.

Great things happen for us when we’re least expecting it.

Keep a positive attitude and never forget who you are and what you represent.

You’re somebody!

No matter what struggles you've had in life, you've made it thus far.

You can’t give up now. No way!

Have courage. Be brave. Stand tall. Keep on trying. Step out of your comfort zone.

Believe – Hope – Aspire – Dream – Dare to make your dreams come true.

Written By Author Stephanie Lahart